SerenaG Posted March 22, 2011 Posted March 22, 2011 6 months post break-up with the coworker ex and I was really doing much better. We had a pretty comfortable working relationship again and I had gotten rid of most of the 'want him back' feelings. Out of the blue last week I got a text message (first one in 4 months) asking if I wanted to grab a drink. I was so stunned and curious I had to answer. I also totally believed I was just going to see if we could do the friend thing. I couldn't go that night and after some back and forth we finally settled on tonight. We saw each other at another event over the weekend and things were a little flirty and he said he was looking forward to Monday. So yesterday I text asking what time and where he wanted to meet... and I waited, and waited. No response. I saw him at work today from afar and we briefly waved so I figured he would answer soon. Still nothing. It's the evening now and I wasted the better part of the last two days obsessing over this, and the last hour crying. He on the other hand couldn't take 2 minutes to send a text saying he was tied up, too busy, didn't think it was a good idea. Anything would have been better than the silence. Now I get to go back to work and try to figure out how to avoid him again. So much for the hard work of piecing our work relationship back together. Kicking myself for falling for this flake again.
EmperorR Posted March 22, 2011 Posted March 22, 2011 Why I preach a No contact for life, this is what exes can do the little txt, months years later have you stressing about the little things. Knowing they got your hopes up , knowing they still maintain a little power over you.
Author SerenaG Posted March 22, 2011 Author Posted March 22, 2011 You're right about the power game playing, definitely one of his chief traits. Can't believe I fell into it and now have to face him at work.
Mcnulty Posted March 22, 2011 Posted March 22, 2011 He just fancied getting his ego stroked, so used you to get it. Get rid of his number, so he can't do it again and blank him at work, surely that would be the best option?
Author SerenaG Posted March 22, 2011 Author Posted March 22, 2011 Yeah - you're right. I hate tension at work and was really proud that we had worked our way to a comfortable/friendly work co-existence. But I guess that just left me open to this. Another lesson learned.
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