nixa Posted March 21, 2011 Posted March 21, 2011 Next weekend I am going to be at a small (20-ish people) party where the ex-gf from one of my previous threads will be in attendance. I've never met her before, and I'm really nervous about being in this situation, especially given the drama that went on between her and my bf last summer, in addition to some other things. I don't want to not go, but I'm anxious that I won't enjoy myself, or that I will act awkward, because I will be preoccupied that the situation might be awkward. I guess I don't really have a question, I'm just venting my anxiousness. I'll probably end up posting more about this. This is the ex-gf thread for anyone that's curious: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?t=236383
Author nixa Posted March 21, 2011 Author Posted March 21, 2011 Some other reasons I'm nervous: 1. One day when I had way too much time on my hands I Googled this girl and found out a ton of stuff about her/lots of pictures, blogs, etc. I'm slightly unnerved that I know exactly what she looks like and know so much information about her that I feel like I know her, but she probably doesn't know anything about me. (Even if for some odd reason she Googled me, I don't have such a large online presence like she does.) 2. This get together is for a co-worker of her and my bf's going away party. She told a bunch of people that she works with that my bf started talking to me before they were broken up (not true). I don't know, but it would be plausible, that some of the people she was trash-talking to will be there also. 3. She's dating someone else now, but for awhile after they broke up she was still all up in bf's business. Mostly I think this is a contributing factor to #2. 4. She will know most people at the party, and will definitely be closer to them than I am. 5. I'm afraid that my bf will realize that his ex will be at the party, and decide that he no longer wants to go, which will lead me to feel even more neurotic than I already do, and pester him about why he doesn't want to go anymore (because I will know it's about her, and he won't admit it). 6. I almost met her once when I visited my bf at work. I was literally standing 3 feet away from her. My bf introduced me to every single person in the room, except her. Even though I was so close I could touch her, and everyone else was talking to me (so that it was conspicuous that she wasn't), she didn't even turn around. There's some other reasons too, but eh. I don't know why I feel so competitive with her, but I really don't want her to look better than me, or be more charming than me at this thing.
lemonlegs Posted March 22, 2011 Posted March 22, 2011 It's not that big of a deal. In your other thread, you even said that you didn't see why your boyfriend made a big deal out of her being there. I didn't read all of it, so I don't know if you made some devastating revelaton about their relationship, but if not, then it's still not a big deal. Don't go out of your way to be artificially nice to her just to "show her" that you're nice. If she talks to you, introduces herself, or is engaged in a mutual conversation, then be friendly. Don't be rude either if that's what you're leaning towards. Just be yourself.
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