samsungxoxo Posted March 21, 2011 Posted March 21, 2011 IMO there are certain circumstances which it was deserved. If someone was treating you like absolute garbage then apart from leaving them, the cheating might have been deserved, well kind of and therefore understandable. Off course I wouldn't cheat but if hypothetically speaking, it happened then I would make sure it was well thought out, have plans A, B, C, D on my mind if anything happens (Ex: If I'm seen at the movies with OM, just say it's my long distance cousin... well you get the point) and witnesses can't be present at all, etc. I know how you are might shoot me for this but I just wanted to share it. Again I will not cheat but that's how I imagine if it were to happen (in fantasy that is).
Darren Taylor Posted March 21, 2011 Posted March 21, 2011 If you feel that your SO deserves to be cheated on(even if that is the case), you have underlying issues. Being vengeful is a horrible trait.
Rita86 Posted March 21, 2011 Posted March 21, 2011 So because person A is treating you bad you think they deserve to be lied to and gaslighted? Do you think that will make person A not treat person B any better? And actually wouldn't the cheater then deserve to be treated like garbage. Bottom line: we teach people How to treat us. If you're unhappy get out if you choose to cheat then that says more about than of the way you were treated.
lemonlegs Posted March 22, 2011 Posted March 22, 2011 IMO there are certain circumstances which it was deserved. If someone was treating you like absolute garbage then apart from leaving them, the cheating might have been deserved, well kind of and therefore understandable. So, I'm confused as to why a normal human being wouldn't just leave their partner instead of cheating on them? Cheating speaks volumes about a person's morality, regardless of who their partner is and how they're treated by them. Cheating is never the solution no matter how you choose to look at it.
Author samsungxoxo Posted March 22, 2011 Author Posted March 22, 2011 So, I'm confused as to why a normal human being wouldn't just leave their partner instead of cheating on them? Cheating speaks volumes about a person's morality, regardless of who their partner is and how they're treated by them. Cheating is never the solution no matter how you choose to look at it.I would leave them but those were just my thoughts and fantasies. I can think anything as long as I don't actually turn it into actions.
ChessPieceFace Posted March 22, 2011 Posted March 22, 2011 So, I'm confused as to why a normal human being wouldn't just leave their partner instead of cheating on them? Cheating speaks volumes about a person's morality, regardless of who their partner is and how they're treated by them. Yay. Someone believes the same thing I do.
fltc Posted March 22, 2011 Posted March 22, 2011 IMO there are certain circumstances which it was deserved. Never is it 'deserved', cheating is NEVER acceptable for ANY reason because a relationship is built on trust and honesty and cheating involves lying and deception. The second one partner decides to "fool around" the marriage is over, the betrayed partner may not know it but it's over.
Author samsungxoxo Posted March 22, 2011 Author Posted March 22, 2011 you sought pleasure outside of your relationship with your boyfriend by masterbating on the internet with other men.Perhaps you missunderstood my thread. First, I never masturbated in front of the cam. Second, I didn't talked that often to guys online and our conversations lasted for that day only. Third, the only type of dirty talk was just in writing.... not cam. Lastly, it's not like I was gonna see them no one... they were from other places. While many were from the US, few were from other countries.
Author samsungxoxo Posted March 22, 2011 Author Posted March 22, 2011 (edited) Eitherway it wouldn't matter anymore because it's already been a while since breaking up. Like I stated before, we are now friends. You do have such a strong view towards this don't you? It's ok... I respect you......... Nevertheless, I still believe I never cheated. Think I would cheat to create a bad repuation within me? Nope Edited March 22, 2011 by samsungxoxo
Author samsungxoxo Posted March 22, 2011 Author Posted March 22, 2011 I have read numerous posts of women who are upset that their men sexting other women. and that doesn't even necessarily involve manual stimulation. I suppose they are wrong to feel the way they do because YOU don't think its cheating.I guess I'll never understand those women posters. Frankly I wouldn't mind if a future BF or husband does this. The only time it would be upsetting is if he did this but yet doesn't let me do the same. My definitions can changed from time to time as nothing is permanent. I'm different now than when I was 19 years old.
Author samsungxoxo Posted March 23, 2011 Author Posted March 23, 2011 what are you going to do if you find yourself with someone that doesn't agree that sexting and internet fooling around is not cheating?This would depend on how strong the relationship is. If he thinks everything is cheating then I'm out in seconds.
Author samsungxoxo Posted March 23, 2011 Author Posted March 23, 2011 But I'm single and won't be focusing on dates for a long while. I just want to finish studying and obtaining my degree in Translations & Interpretations.
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