Lilmisus Posted March 21, 2011 Posted March 21, 2011 I used to know this guy, who we'll call James, about four years ago when we were both in high school. Back then, he was this punk kid who did plenty of drugs, swore like a sailor and tried hard to get me to cuss (since back then I was hard against it). One of my memories that I have of him is him buying me a cute shirt for Christmas that year that he said he searched long and hard for, and I've never gotten rid of it - even though it doesn't fit me still. Also, memories of him in plays and whatnot that we did together. He ended up dropping out soon after though, deleting me and countless others off from Myspace, and up until recently I haven't heard or thought of him since. A few weeks ago I was on my friend's Facebook and I noticed that he had James added as a friend. I was completely shocked, but I clicked on his page, and I decided to send him a friend request to see how he was doing. When I looked at his page, I thought I added some completely different James Smith than the one that I remembered way back when. This guy, was completely handsome, and apparently went back to school to become a minister and has his Facebook wall devoted to Christianity. Not stuck-up like some Christians are described as, but cool and laid back, the kind of Christian and person that I typically associate with and I consider myself to be. I Facebook stalked him for around 15 minutes, just going down his wall looking for one swear word or something to prove that this was indeed the same James that I used to know, but nothing. Zilch. The thing is though, that although the "old" James was very hot and attractive, this "new James was 10 times more so to me. I don't know if it's the fact that we now apparently share the same taste in music, values, or sense of humor for the looks of it, or if it's because he's off the drugs and has his life in order. After my very recent breakup though, I'm not quite ready to go and talk to other guys especially since my ex and I are trying very hard to be friends right now. And although I didn't have to, I told him I didn't think I'd be dating anyone in the near future and he said that he had no interest in dating anyone else right now either. But I really, really want to talk and get to know this guy again. If only because it'd be great to have a guy friend who shares the same values as I do and one who I didn't have to worry about judging me for my choice of beliefs like so many do these days. But in all honesty, I would love to have the chance to get to know him and see if there's potential there (by the way, he's single). I'm wondering how I can get in touch with him though. There's the ever obvious "liking" or commenting on something of his or shooting him a message, but we were never close in high school, just occasionally talked and saw one another, so I'd have no idea what to say without coming across the wrong way. Also, I see where he works at, it's a place where I used to go multiple times a month, and so I'm wondering if I should just stop by there sometime with a girl friend of mine that used to know him and just "randomly" run into him if he's working. Thoughts?
WillSingForFood Posted March 21, 2011 Posted March 21, 2011 Why don't you just send him a message asking what's going on and see what he says? If he gave you a shirt for christmas then that seems like he at least had some interest in you, even though you didnt talk for a while.
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