lostanddazed Posted March 21, 2011 Posted March 21, 2011 A little background, we were together almost 6 years, she dumped me for another guy. So after 2 months of NC, she starts calling my cell phone non stop. I don't answer and I was on vacation for 5 days. She Blew my phone up for 5 days straight. I get back to work she starts blowing my work phone. I finally answer because I don't want to look bad at work. First words out of her mouth are "I need your Help" I said with what, she said she needs a 1,000 dollars. I laugh at her and tell her to ask her new boyfriend. She told me they broke up a week ago. I said thats to bad, whatever we got to talking she told me she missed and loved me.. yadda yada. She asked to meet up with me I told her to meet me at my job at 9. We go out have a great night, I ask her again if she really broke up with the guy she swore to me she did. Whatever, we get back to my place, I bang her yadda yadda. For the next month, we are hanging out all the time, getting physical, the whole I love you stuff, talking on the phone all day. Then St patty's day comes around. I go to a party where I run into an old mutual friend of ours. Me and the friend start talking, I said ya me and aly been hanging out. She goes awesome you guys are cool again, I was like everythings been going real well. She goes thats awesome, her and her boyfriend celebrated their 6 month anniversary last week. I damn near flipped my ****ing lid. I sent her a text saying wow, you cheated on me 3 months before we broke up.. congradulations on her 6 month anniversary. She calls my job the next day, I answer.. she calls my friend a liar, and ask me what she can do to prove it. I said give me your Facebook password. She gives me a password thats not the real one.. but I known this girl for 6 years so I figured based on the fake one what the real one was on my first try. I see pictures of her and the other guy.. messages about how much they love each other.. this and that. I called her left her a message saying... number 1) dont give me a fake password thats close to your real one. 2) I read every message you sent that guy.. let me guess my friend hacked your facebook, photoshopped your pictures, and sent him messages. She called me saying how sorry she was, she loves me and wants to be with me, but doesnt want to hurt this guys feelings. I said look, honestly I can't be with someone or even be friends with someone that can lie to me like that. I hung up the phone. She has been blowing up my phone ever since sending me text messages and emails saying to please forgive her, that I'm her first love, and only love. That she wants me to move to Cali with her.. this and that. Any opinions on whats going on in this girls head??? I was over her, why would she go out of her way to get a hold of me.. while she has a boyfriend.. lie to me about having a boyfriend.. and be with the both of us at the same time.. I don't get it. WTF is wrong with women
lemonlegs Posted March 21, 2011 Posted March 21, 2011 Umm, firstly, please don't generalize. I'm a woman and would never do something that shady, ever. Secondly, I freakin' hope you did not lend her that money. 'Cause if you did, then it was probably all a ploy to get money out of you, which proves that this girl is royally effed in the head. She obviously has issues if she's willing to cheat on her new boyfriend. If I were you, I would have sent a guy a message on her facebook, saying who I was, what had happened, and if he had any doubts, to ask himself why you are on HER facebook and explain that incident to him.
Lil1 Posted March 21, 2011 Posted March 21, 2011 lostanddazed, I'm so sorry you experienced something so hurtful and underhanded. Please son't let this wretched human being destroy the good in you. You sound like a genuinely caring and sensitive guy and I promise you someone good and worthy of your love will come your way someday. Your ex is a really effed up person and I do hope that you did not lend her that money. Definitely do not contact or speak to her ever again. She has a lot of issues she needs to work through and believe me she will getwhat she has dished out. Please move on and don't look back. You deserve much better. There are good women out there ... we are not all the same, just like men are not all the same=) Don't let your love turn into something ugly and bitter. Just give yourself time to heal and have faith in true love!
JasonRules Posted March 21, 2011 Posted March 21, 2011 Your ex girlfriend is messed up in the head. If I were you I would take off. Forget about the $1,000 dollars and run. If you stay with her, this will end up costing you a lot more than $1,000 dollars plus emotional heartbreak. Take my advice and go find someone else. There are plenty of fish in the sea.
Mcnulty Posted March 21, 2011 Posted March 21, 2011 Grade A bitch and a cow!!! Did you loan her the money? Please say you didn't. Liar and a cheat, deserves her comeuppance, get back on her facebook and tell her guy what she's done...he's getting shafted also in all of this. Then run for the hills or take her to Judge Judy for your money back!!!
Author lostanddazed Posted March 21, 2011 Author Posted March 21, 2011 No I never gave her the money, something in my gut the whole time was saying something aint right. We went out a lot, i paid for dinners and stuff, but never lent her a thing. She never even brought it up again after the initial conversation. I am not hurt as much as curious. Doesn't make sense to me why all the effort to start speaking with me again. I was very cautious this time around, because of our past and didn't get to attached. Even after all that has happened and everything is out in the open, WTF reason could she possible have to want or even think I would get back with her. My guess can only be her boyfriend right now is satisfying one of her needs, and i'm satisfying the other. Her boyfriend right now is one of those metro sexual dudes almost gay. I'm a boxer, a man, very macho I guess. I'm pretty insensitive, and say whats on my mind. I never really compliment, or tell her she's pretty and stuff, I'm sure the other gay boy does. whatever, no more Dominican women for me!!
Author lostanddazed Posted March 21, 2011 Author Posted March 21, 2011 Also I really thought about sending her boyfriend a message, telling him whats up, and forwarding him all the emails and text and stuff. Then I figured, he would end up believing her and grow their bond even more. I find it better to let him figure out what a nut job she is all on his own. Even though he is not to bright, cause I caught this bitch every single time something felt shady to me.
fetish Posted March 21, 2011 Posted March 21, 2011 kanye west's song "heartless" comes to mind. Kick her to the curb.
Woggle Posted March 21, 2011 Posted March 21, 2011 Just cut her our of your life for good and stop dealing with her. Be glad that you never gave her the money
betterdeal Posted March 21, 2011 Posted March 21, 2011 (edited) I'd go get checked up down the GUM clinic if I were you. You don't know where that's been. After that, maybe do some work on being able to express your emotions some more, be a bit more sensitive, that sort of thing: if you're interested in a long term relationship with someone, it'll mean you'll (a) enjoy another aspect of her and (b) not be susceptible to another pick n mix type. Edited March 21, 2011 by betterdeal
Lil1 Posted March 23, 2011 Posted March 23, 2011 lostanddazed You sound like a genuinely caring and sensitive guyQUOTE] I'm a boxer, a man, very macho I guess. I'm pretty insensitive, and say whats on my mind. I never really compliment, or tell her she's pretty and stuff, I'm sure the other gay boy does. QUOTE] LOL! I take back what I said about you being caring and sensitive! Glad you didnt fork over the money though.
dreamingoftigers Posted March 23, 2011 Posted March 23, 2011 Holy cow, what a mean, conniving, selfish, attention-mongering, whorish, stupid girl. If she is going to pull that ****, she should at least cover it better! On top of everything else she is a total idiot! Good thing you dodged it all now. Who knows how long that would go on for. "Didn't want to hurt his feelings?" WTH is that?
timchambo Posted March 23, 2011 Posted March 23, 2011 yup, cheaters will lie even after you have caught them. I am sure the whole not wanting to hurt his feelings was a lie too. The whole boxer not-sensitive stuff made me smile though. You will probably need a bit more balance for the next one though, unless you keep her chained up in the basement. BTW send those Dominican girls this way.
Chi townD Posted March 23, 2011 Posted March 23, 2011 Geez... Run, run, run, run, run! Keep running....don't look back.....run, run, run......
Author lostanddazed Posted March 27, 2011 Author Posted March 27, 2011 Lol, this girl has some nerve man. After calling my cell phone 5 days straight, and leaving me all kinds of voice mails crying.. saying she loves me.. this and that.. she starts calling my job again. I finally had to get on the phone. She asked me why have I been ignoring her. I actually had to ask her if she seriously didn't know. She told me she is going to find a therapist, and she needs me.. this and that. I told her straight out.. I would never be able to forgive what she did, and to stop calling me. I have changed my number 2 times, she always manages to get it. So I downloaded a cool app called Call control. My phone never rings when she calls, but I still see her missed calls and messages. Best part is, when I asked her if she loved the other guy, she had a long pause, then said not like I love you. I said.. well you should try to love him more, cause i'm done. That was 2 days ago, I have like 300 missed calls from her. She actually canceled her job in L.A and stayed here.. I was hoping she would leave. O and this made me laugh.. I asked her how she could love such a sissy, and I asked if he had the balls to talk any **** about me. She tells me, no he is actually very scared of you, and said if you ever wanted to do something to him, for me to please calm you down. I said.. how the hell could you find that attractive lol. The moral of this story fellas is to go with your gut. No matter how much you want to believe the girl your with, if it feels funny... then somethings probably wrong. I felt something was up the whole time we were working **** out, but I let myself listen to her.
DarkAngel7 Posted March 27, 2011 Posted March 27, 2011 She sounds terrible....The thing that makes me mad is that women like that can ruin a good guy. The guy I am currently struggling with had almost the SAME thing happen. His was Colombian though lol! I think his may have been worse. She lied and said he hit her, had him go to jail. She chased him down the street in her car and purposely crashed into his car!!! He broke up with her, they started seeing other ppl and then they got together. She got mad when she found out he was seeing other women, even though she was seeing guys too! Then while she kept talking about working things out, he found out she made a sex tape with a guy she was dating at the same time! Because of dumb ****** like that, women like me who have never cheated and would never cheat, are given the side eye by men that have had that happen. He used to see her as this innocent girl, thats what she wanted him to believe. Because he was working so much, I guess he didn't know what she was really up to. Anyways because of her hes always scared of letting his feelings out, he says I may walk all over him. He used to ask me if I am only seeing him, over and over again. He would suspect things that were just WRONG. Please don't let this woman change you!
Woggle Posted March 27, 2011 Posted March 27, 2011 She sounds terrible....The thing that makes me mad is that women like that can ruin a good guy. The guy I am currently struggling with had almost the SAME thing happen. His was Colombian though lol! I think his may have been worse. She lied and said he hit her, had him go to jail. She chased him down the street in her car and purposely crashed into his car!!! He broke up with her, they started seeing other ppl and then they got together. She got mad when she found out he was seeing other women, even though she was seeing guys too! Then while she kept talking about working things out, he found out she made a sex tape with a guy she was dating at the same time! Because of dumb ****** like that, women like me who have never cheated and would never cheat, are given the side eye by men that have had that happen. He used to see her as this innocent girl, thats what she wanted him to believe. Because he was working so much, I guess he didn't know what she was really up to. Anyways because of her hes always scared of letting his feelings out, he says I may walk all over him. He used to ask me if I am only seeing him, over and over again. He would suspect things that were just WRONG. Please don't let this woman change you! If only more women were like you. It's sad that women like her ruin it for the good ones. The best way to fight is to come out against women who treat men in this manner. Show men that all women are not like this and all women don't condone this sort of thing. I hate to say this but there are some women who praise this kind of thing because they think getting over on men is some sort of female empowerment.
DarkAngel7 Posted March 27, 2011 Posted March 27, 2011 Woggle I am not perfect. Due to my past...and my childhood I have some insecurity/abandonment issues. I end up saying really mean things when I get mad. Although the reason I am getting mad, is because he acts weird sometimes because his crazy ex made him so affraid to to open up and be real. It is like a damn chain reaction. But yea I don't agree with cheating, never will agree with it, never will do it. If I wanted to bang other people so badly I wouldn't be in a relationship at all!!!! I think the women that think it is empowering are really insecure or have been treated like dirt in their past. They basically want to hurt you before you can get the chance to hurt them.
Woggle Posted March 27, 2011 Posted March 27, 2011 Woggle I am not perfect. Due to my past...and my childhood I have some insecurity/abandonment issues. I end up saying really mean things when I get mad. Although the reason I am getting mad, is because he acts weird sometimes because his crazy ex made him so affraid to to open up and be real. It is like a damn chain reaction. But yea I don't agree with cheating, never will agree with it, never will do it. If I wanted to bang other people so badly I wouldn't be in a relationship at all!!!! I think the women that think it is empowering are really insecure or have been treated like dirt in their past. They basically want to hurt you before you can get the chance to hurt them. The men who treat women like crap are usually the same way. It is a vicious cycle.
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