grecian Posted March 21, 2011 Posted March 21, 2011 My guy and I are doing very well, we're happy together and have good communication as well. The thing is I'm very affectionate with him. He is affectionate too which I really like, but not as much as I am. Some times he just bugs me about the fact that when we cuddle in bed or on the couch watching tv, I am, a lot of time, caressing him; nothing aggressive, just soft touching on the chest and arms, and occasionally i give him some kisses. I mean, i'm in love, i can't hide it; i'm affectionate and i can't help touching him and kissing him. I know he likes to get affection but i don't get why he has to comment on my affection level a lot of times. It just kinda kills my mood. So, i wonder why you guys think? Supposedly, he likes the fact that i'm direct and don't play games, and i gotta admit he doesn't play games with me either. But, it makes me wonder... should i maybe just play it cool and let him take the initiative for intimacy all the time? I just feel awkward asking him why he comments on it, so do you think i should just try to suppress my affection at least for a short period of time to see what his reaction will be??
MutteringUrchin Posted March 21, 2011 Posted March 21, 2011 You have different levels of affection-requirement. I'm sure you know this, but it can be hard to accept. It doesn't mean that you're doing anything wrong, by any means; you're just different in this area. You like a lot, he likes a lot -- but not as much as you. It's hard to give advice on this, However, I'll risk it and advise to not take offence when he comments. Just joke about it and be honest with him. Tell him what you've just told us. Communication goes a long way.
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