LifesBeachy Posted March 21, 2011 Posted March 21, 2011 A guy told me we didn't have it after our date yesterday... and I'm still hung up on what that is, if it exists, or he just made that up? He said I was very attractive and kept talking about us just having sex. (Which I declined that offer, btw...) So this "relationship spark" is a real thing? I mean I know of the regular "spark" but didn't know guys had segmented types of sparks.
carhill Posted March 21, 2011 Posted March 21, 2011 (edited) It's just double-talk for 'I will stick my penis in you and don't expect anything further from me' The female corollary is 'I will use you for my tampon and will toss you into the toilet when finished' The only spark he has is the buzz in his nuts which happens with a variable subset of women he meets everyday. The 'relationship spark' (the topic) is when the 'buzz' is in his brain about the person you are and the value of what your existence brings into his life. Synergistic buzz. Edited March 21, 2011 by carhill
Mrlonelyone Posted March 21, 2011 Posted March 21, 2011 What he said. The guy's talk of a "relationship spark" was just him trying to see if he could get NSA sex from you. A really cheesy line at that.
lemonlegs Posted March 21, 2011 Posted March 21, 2011 I agree. A "spark" is more than just a physical attraction. I think the spark is when it's obvious that you and that person share the same values and ideas on a lot of things, and it seems natural for you to hangout, without having to pretend to be something you're not. And also, you want to see that person again, and again. I can't explain it, but I saw a lot of guys who I found physically attractive, but for whatever reason, after hanging out with them a few times, I just had no desire to see them again. I actually dreaded it which provoked me to just cancel altogether. Then when my boyfriend came along, I was actually excited to see him. Why? Because it felt so natural, I felt like I didn't have to go out of my way to impress him because he liked me for me, and I liked him for him.
Author LifesBeachy Posted March 21, 2011 Author Posted March 21, 2011 I suppose I didn't feel this either... Conversation lacked at times... Though, it would have been nice to see him again--I wasn't opposed to that. But I am now The zinger is, he told me he never just had sex with someone... He always had relationships... Though now... I'm doubting that; I wonder how many times his cheesy line worked.
Author LifesBeachy Posted March 24, 2011 Author Posted March 24, 2011 (edited) We said our byes and he txted me [to apologize] today after not speaking since after our date. looks like he's trying to worm his way back into my life !! Already had him out of my phone and everything. Edited March 24, 2011 by LifesBeachy
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