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Author confused1989 Posted March 23, 2011 Author Posted March 23, 2011 smart move man. Don't respond. Don't even act like you care even if you do. Don't even look her way. This girl got some balls and there can't be two men in a relationship. That's what i told myself as i was breaking up with my ex. I'm the man by nature so I have to stand up and be that! Your ex's mission right now is to act like she doesn't care and is not bothered. Such a manipulator! Just to give you a heed of warning, now that you're standing up and being a man against her, prepare yourself because she might start flirting with other guys to make you jealous. Just know that you can do the same thing with other girls, study partners, and etc. I mean after all, you say people have said you're good looking right? BTW are you in college or HS cuz you mentioned locker? Just curious? Thanks! I was pretty proud of myself to ignore what she said. I was also pretty proud that I didn't make eye contact with her in the library. She defintiely has balls that's for sure and no fear. The thing that I keep reminding myself too is that at one point in the relationship (long time ago) she even said "you wouldn't break up with me anyway you don't have the balls to". So she assumed that I would always be there for her and I feel good knowing that right now I'm not being there for her. I'm fully expecting her to flirt. I already kind of seen it on Facebook throuhg mutual friends pages, not hers though, it's just hard to block 60 people from my news feed. She was flirting with another guy on a mutual friends status pretty much. I know I can definitely do the same, the hard thing is that she's still the only one I'm attracted to right now and my feelings are still there, but I can definnitely "fake it till I make it" or just go out of my way a little bit for sure. I'm in college, a 4th year , I know it may not seem that way from my posts all the time lol. But our college is small and there are lockers for off campus people, and we've been sharing a small one since September. We didn't even use it though really. And the "belongings" she wanted back were weird. It was like travelling shampoo and like an old t shirt and Q-tips, that was all that she had basically left at my apartment. But anyway I threw it all in there.
fetish Posted March 23, 2011 Posted March 23, 2011 I just want to add this because it wouldn't let me edit my last post: Part of feeling good is looking good too. It probably wouldn't hurt to get a few new clothes, maybe some shirts, jeans, and start working out on your free time! It actually does help create those endorphins in your body that help in the healing process. I'm a littlle older now, so these games are basically the same to me. I'm still dealing with them right now. I'm sure your girl didn't even really want or need those things at your apartment. It was just an excuse for her to use those things to try to regain control of the situation, to let you know she's not really thrown by what you said. I'm sure you know that deep down. Just like my ex girl asking for the copy to her carkey back after i asked for my apartment key. She knows that since my name is on the car, that key actually belongs to me ( at least until the car payments are finished). But that didn't stop her from using that as a retaliation weapon.
Author confused1989 Posted March 24, 2011 Author Posted March 24, 2011 Yeah I agree I need to get some new clothes, get a new haircut or something, and start working out if I can find the time. Man there is so much I want to say to her today. Probably because I had a dream about her last night so that kind of set the tone for me to have a crappy day. There is just so much on my mind. Like last week when we were still talking and she kept saying she wanted me but wasn't really showing it. I told her at that time to forget about me and move on and she said she couldn't do that. Now since I cut her off Monday she seems perfectly fine with it. It is so confusing to me. Another thing is like how was it only a week ago she was calling me ideal and saying life sucks without me and saying she would love me no matter what ever happened to me. Man I want to rip into her so bad. I'm so angry. Another thing I didn't mention that is making me so anxious about this is that we were to go to Hawaii together in a couple of weeks, I made that commitment to her, then she tells me stuff doesn't feel the same and basically causes the break up 3 weeks after we book. Multiple times I told her to reconsider what she's doing and at first she said "I can't go without you it was supposed to be our trip" and now she's going anyway without me. I guess that just makes me think she's sure about this decision. By me not contacting her she said this confirms her beliefs about me, that I don't care about her and never did. She said there is way more out there for her, and many guys who will appreciate her and love her. Man all these thoughts are just running through my head today. I've picked up my phone at least 5 times and wanted to dial, but I resisted. I juts feel so weak. Funny how things can change so much. But yeah... her going on this trip without me and her planning to go away for the whole summer makes me feel like she's gone for good. Damn this sucks. I know I'm probably better off... I'm just not seeing it that way right at this moment. I just wish there was something I could do to change all of this.
Author confused1989 Posted March 24, 2011 Author Posted March 24, 2011 She just texted me tellign me how she's going to fail a course she's taking.
JasonRules Posted March 24, 2011 Posted March 24, 2011 She just texted me tellign me how she's going to fail a course she's taking. She's bored and craving for attention. Don't bother giving it to her. You're not her girlfriend or her entertainer. Just ignore her entirely. Be a man and stick to your guns.
fetish Posted March 24, 2011 Posted March 24, 2011 she's not only craving for attention, but she is trying to win sympathy. If you show it to her, you're falling right back in to the palm of her hands and you'll be back to square one. My ex tried that with me when we first broke up and when i ignored her, she tried to make me feel guilty about it by saying i don't care about her and act like i want nothing to do with her. Guess what, it worked! I feel guilty ignoring her seeing that i still love her and don't want to let her go yet. But i have to remember how bad she disrespected me and basically spit in my face when i confronted her about her issues. Then she storms out and tries to control the situation and moves out in hoping that i'll be running after her begging. It all comes down to what's important to you. Love or Self respect. I choose self respect because it will make me feel better about myself and in the end, it looks better to your girl too.
Author confused1989 Posted March 25, 2011 Author Posted March 25, 2011 Yeah you guys are right. She texted me again later and told me she hoped my thesis was going well. I ignored again. She's going on a road trip again this weekend back to the same place she went last weekend to party it up once again. To be honest it hurts but at the same time I'm wondering where her head is at. I mean it said on Facebook she was attending a party here this weekend but I guess she decided to ditch her "friends" here and go partying out of state again. It's kind of unattractive seeing her act this way at the end of a semester with exams around the corner, and kind of unattractive that she places priority on people she's just met instead of the people who've been there for her countless times. But hey come to think of it she's always been that way. Even her own mother said she treats the people who love her the most the worst. Seems like she's too busy wanting to meet new people to spend time with the ones who actually care about her. Anyway atleast I'm focusing on my goals, which is all I can control. Maybe seeing her go haywire like this will hurt tremdendously for the time being but maybe it will make me get over her quicker as well, who knows.
Author confused1989 Posted March 25, 2011 Author Posted March 25, 2011 but once again I want to rip into her so bad. Can't make time for me for 3 months then she can go out of state two weekends in a row when finals are next week. Ridiculous. Tells me what kind of person she is I guess.
TheLoneSock Posted March 25, 2011 Posted March 25, 2011 but once again I want to rip into her so bad. Can't make time for me for 3 months then she can go out of state two weekends in a row when finals are next week. Ridiculous. Tells me what kind of person she is I guess. Use it pal. Use it. It's only in hindsight that we can see someone for what they truly are. She sounds like an extremely self indulgent, immature girl. You have zero business feeling anything for her. The only reason she has sent any kind of contact to you what so ever is because she wants a backup plan, just in case she gets tired of partying and experimenting (not calling her a slut, but you know what I mean). She is an outright selfish girl and I bet if you asked any mature woman on here to take a look at your situation they would agree. Is she off that pedestal yet? She should be, she doesn't deserve it. Erase her from your life and refuse to re-open that door until you know she's grown up and has come to you in a genuine and serious way. My guess? By then you'll have found a girl that makes her look like last week's garbage. I'd bet anything. Use it.
Author confused1989 Posted March 25, 2011 Author Posted March 25, 2011 (edited) Thanks again lonesock. It was definitely a slap in the face to realize her plans and I've only been NC since Monday and I am starting to see things a little bit differently for sure. I'm only young so I don't expect her to be perfect but there are a lot of other guys my age I know who have relationships that I wish I had, mine doesn't come close in a lot of ways. We had a lot of good times sure, but from day one she didn't respect me and she was always about herself. Sucks because we were compatible in a lot of other ways but all my friends and my family said the problem always was that she didn't respect me or our relationship. I can't count one time that she took responsibility for anything, or took into consideration how I felt about something. What her actions are telling me is that this is who she really is, and that all I did was "keep her in line" so to speak I guess. Held her back. I always had the gut feeling that her mind wandered a little bit and she seemed attracted to just about anyone so I'm not surprised about her partying and experimenting when I think about that. She can't be on her own I know that for a fact, I didn't know her my whole life because I only met her in college but she is the type who needs validation and she often commented how much happier she is being with someone and how happy her parents were that I kept her from being a booze bag all the time, even though she still did it pretty frequent in my opinion. Slowly but surely she is definitely coming off the pedestal. Each day she comes down a notch in my eyes. A lot of it is because of me realizing stuff in hindsight like you say, and just because of her actions lately. There is nothing more unattractive to me than someone who goes haywire after a break up. It happened to me in a past breakup too and it makes me wonder who they really are and if I even really knew them. Another thing I guess too is that I clearly told her on Monday not to talk to me anymore, and what has she done? texted me Tuesday.. texted me Wednesday.. texted me today.. that's how little respect she has for me, I'm pretty positive she doesn't think I'm for real. Well all my friends are proud of me for having the balls to cut her loose, and you guys helped me find it in me to put the foot down for sure. Thanks again that was very motivating. Awesome. Edited March 25, 2011 by confused1989
Author confused1989 Posted March 25, 2011 Author Posted March 25, 2011 (edited) Well another hard day of NC. I think weekends are the worst, just because she pops into my head and I wonder what she's up to. I've held up with not contacting her back and I'm proud of myself for that. But I'm not going to lie I checked her Facebook and noticed she had her wall hidden from just me and I can't comment on her pictures or anything, not that I would have anyway. Set me back a little bit, but I asked for it by going on her profile. I have been good resisting for the most part but I caved in weakness. Still a lot on my mind.. the manipulation, the trip we were supposed to go on a month from today, her continous disrespect for me, and her current actions which make me less attracted to her and make me see her as someone who's heavily influenced by others, can't make her own decisions, and don't know where her priorities are. I'm still dealing with guilt, it's gotten better for the most part but it's definitely not gone. Just because she blamed me for the relationship breakdown.. it still pops back in my head from time to time. And juts the guilt of having put my foot down and shutting her out completely, although two months of us in LC and talking after we broke up in January didn't get me very far anyway. Is it true that the one's who go crazy after a breakup, show they don't care, meet a bunch of new guys, and change all of their priorities, act different to their friends etc. are just putting on a show? is it possible this is really getting to her more than I think? Or maybe it's just real. Maybe it's just the validation that you guys keep telling me she needs. She needs someone to fill that void and can't be happy alone. Am I right in assuming that? I mean, I'm not out looking for a girl to fill the void right now, I'm acting the way I always did even when we were together, except obviously I don't do things for her anymore. But my friends are the same, my priorities are the same. I drive 1200km every weekend to get ****faced all of a sudden. Also I'm going to admit I'm suffering from a huge ego blow. Let's hope this day gets better. Maybe it wouldn't hurt so much if I wasn't still so physically attracted to her. But maybe the longer I'm in NC the more I'll realize she isn't as beautiful as I thought? Or maybe I won't have that strong physically connection to her. I know one of my ex's gets drooled over continously, and I don't even find her attractive to me anymore. So maybe I'll get to that point eventually. Edited March 25, 2011 by confused1989
betterdeal Posted March 25, 2011 Posted March 25, 2011 It gets better. You'll block her on Stalkbook eventually. Just about the time you get too tired of dragging around an imaginary cross for her.
Author confused1989 Posted March 25, 2011 Author Posted March 25, 2011 (edited) True that. I keep re-reading these posts anytime I feel down to try to get all the good advice you guys gave me into my head again. I know I'm making some progress, slowly but surely. One small step at a time I guess, considering I really only cut her out of my life on Monday and have had texts from her ever since trying to keep me on a string, although I am still proud I havent' replied. I guess I have to stop expecting to wake up tomrorow and not feel any more pain. Yup, Facebook is crap. I'm so mad at myself for caving and checking her page. You're right, I will eventually block her when I find courage. I just know I was the one who deleted her off Blackberry messenger, I told her to stop talking to me in real life, I'm theone who took off our relationship status after she "hid" it so no one could see it, basically made me feel on the back burner big time so I cancelled it all together. I called all the shots in regards to that stuff, so I'm a little hesitant blocking her although I know it's for the better. I'll do it when I'm ready, I guess, for now I'll just keep her hidden from my news feed. Imaginary cross.. that's a good way of putting it. For some reason my mind tells me everyone wants this girl because she's so outgoing and attractive, and that this is all my loss. However when I sit down and look at the facts, I treated her a lotbetter than she did to me, and from what I gather from our social group a lot of people have more respect for me than they do for her despite how many "friends" she has and how outgoing she is. People do see through it I guess. Edited March 25, 2011 by confused1989
betterdeal Posted March 26, 2011 Posted March 26, 2011 It's natural to try and rescue things that are important to us, but after a point, we realise what was important wasn't the person but the relationship, the connection, the bond, and if we have different things to do that mean we have to end that connection, then that's what we do. Wish her well, say goodbye (in your head) and move on to finding other things that make you happy.
TheLoneSock Posted March 26, 2011 Posted March 26, 2011 Slowly but surely she is definitely coming off the pedestal. A girl like that is not going to be satisfied with any part of her life until she feels like she has 'lived it up'. Many girls are like this but there are a good number of girls out there who don't have to go through this phase in life before they grow up - that is the kind of girl that will make you happiest, not this one. As far as her continued texting you after you've put your foot down, that means she doesn't take you seriously - in other words, like what has been said all along, she doesn't respect you. I hope you haven't responded to any of these texts. It's time to grab your balls and de-media her. That means de-facebook, de-twitter, de-anything that connects you to her. And change her contact name in your phone to something else more... creative. Realize that this girl does not have the capacity to make you happy. Grant it, it is not the responsibility of our partners to MAKE us happy, as we should be happy with ourselves, but you do know what I mean. There is another girl out there waiting for you to get over this one and get back to the normal, fun and good hearted you - so that she has a turn to meet you. That is the truth. Don't waste one more second of your life over this broad, she's pathetic.
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