lala82 Posted March 21, 2011 Posted March 21, 2011 Hello Everyone: I have been writing in different occasions. I had a relationship with my ex bf for 3.5 years and we lived together 1 year till he decided to move to the Middle East for a job offer. Since he moved our relationship was a roller coaster with a lot of up and downs. Two months, after he left The UK, I decided to back to home country in South America. Then, 3 months later he travelled from the Middle East to Colombia to meet my family and he told me that he had planes to get marry with me, but that he was not very sure about it. Two, months later he split up with me and my heart was broken into 1000 pieces. Since we split up I decided to do not have any kind of contact with him. I deleted him from msn, facebook and skype. He sent me 3 e-mails, which he apologized to hurt me and that he will never forget me. I did not reply those e-mails. Four months later, for x-mas and b-day he contacted me again for msg, and he wish me merry x-mas. So, just I said the same to him. Two days later, he sent a text to my mobile phone to wish me happy b-day. So, just I sent to him a short e-mail to say thanks. Then, he sent me an e-mail to say that I deserve all the best and that he was thinking about me a lot. I just replied to say thanks for you good wishes. Last week I move back to London again because I got a work permit to work full time on my career without any restrictions. I did not say anything to him about my trip. Last Thursday, I just sent to him a short e-mail just saying that if he would be able to send me my credit card by post to a friend's flat. He sent me 5 e-mails to say that he wasn't sure if he had my credit card. Then, in another e-mail he told me that he was in the north of England because his grandma passed away a couple of days ago. In another one he told that that his mum said that I was in London and that he was hoping it was true, because he had been thinking about me recently and that he was praying a lot and hoping that I back to The UK. I just replied the e-mail and said that I was really sorry that his grandma pass away and that thanks for his good wishes and that I wish him all the best with his future. Finally, I mention something about my credit card again. Yesterday, I was quite silly because I checked his facebook and I confirmed that he has a relationship with an aussie women, who is 40 years old. When, he split up with me he travelled for a short holidays to England and then he met her in Spain. In Christmas his mum put on his facebook that he was in Australia. Yesterday, I read a note on his facebook that he put last month, which says that he bought a new car with the lady friend. Honestly, it hurts a lot to know that he is having now a relationship with mature women, which is older than both of us. I do not why he says that he thinks about me and other things if he is with her. I feel really down and I am the point to consider to leave the country again, this depression is killing me. Any advice……
jane100 Posted March 21, 2011 Posted March 21, 2011 He finished with you. IMO thats a green light to go out and find someone new. End of story. Why bother about the credit card? Just cancel it and forget about it then you won't have to email him. One downside to all this texting and email and facebook business has enabled people IMO to drag out relationships and so forth beyond their true life with very little effort. The fact he says that he is thinking of you whilst with another woman is, to my mind, fundamentally dishonest. It sounds like you did the right thing by not responding or just responding non-comittally and I would revert to that. BTW, you could ask him non-comitally if you want to hear it from the horse's mouthif he is seeing someone, I don't understand Facebook so I don't know if what people write about themselves is true). I would be very curious to hear response!
betterdeal Posted March 21, 2011 Posted March 21, 2011 Block him on Facebook. Block his phone number. Cancel your credit card. Move on.
folieadeux Posted March 21, 2011 Posted March 21, 2011 I'm sorry you're going through this. I agree with everyone else...he's moved on and so should you. Don't give him any more power, if you want to stay in the UK, don't let him drive you out. I know it's hard right now, but it'll get better I promise; moving is not the answer. Get rid of everything of his from your life and don't fall for his attempts to contact you.
Author lala82 Posted March 22, 2011 Author Posted March 22, 2011 Thanks for your responses. I feel beter now, yesterday I went out with some friends and they told me that I just need to move on and do not mention him anymore. It does not make sense that he says that he thinks on me and praying that I would back to London; while he is having a relationship with a woman older than him. BTW, since arrive to The UK I have a new number, so he won't be able to contact me by phone. I left in Colombia all the jewelry and presents that he gave when we had a relationship. It is time for a new and better start.
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