No_hope Posted March 21, 2011 Posted March 21, 2011 Alright background information. Broke up with me 6 weeks before our wedding, found out he cheated on me at the end of our relationship, and he broke up with me for the girl. He told me the reasons he broke up with me was because he isn't the "settling down type" and I wouldn't let him do drugs. it's been 2 1/2 months since the split, the girl broke up with him a couple days ago and moved 2 states away, he acted all sad about it, then he posted how he was loving life but wished someone was there to love it with him. And then he posted "MARRY ME!!!!" he also quit doing drugs. I am planning un friending him from facebook, but last time I did he called me to tell him to re add him. so is he trying to mess with me, or hurt me? what the hell do you think he is getting at? I am on day 13 of no contact, and if he was directing any of this to me, he has to contact me, plain and simple. but if he was directing it to the other girl, why would he say that after 2 1/2 months? and she broke up with him, twice! in 2 months!
robinseggblue Posted March 21, 2011 Posted March 21, 2011 First, he's not this "settling down type" and then he's screaming "Marry me"? Oh heavens. .I don't think the drugs have left his system yet. I feel for you. I really do. I am trying to imagine how you must feel. Sounds like you are staying strong though. Good work. I don't think he is trying to mess with anybody. I think he is just messed up himself, and what he is doing is the result. Not necessarily premeditated, just reactionary. Hang in there. See what he is screaming in 6 months from now. That is what counts.
Perplexed81 Posted March 23, 2011 Posted March 23, 2011 Sounds like a case of having your cake and eating to. Simple diagnostic here, he broke up with you to mess around freely with the other woman. Apparently the other woman couldn't break him either and had enough of his bs and broke up with him so now he needs something to take its place. People that make rash decisions "I've been guilty" aren't in a stable mindset. Its easy, imagine a serious cocaine addict, as long as he has his coke, its all fun and money's falling from the sky. The minute his coke dries up, his mind goes into panic mode to get it any way shape or form. Same goes with your situation.
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