SPT Rally USA Posted March 21, 2011 Posted March 21, 2011 ok so i basically realized that i have never made a move on a girl before in my life! I have had 4 girlfriends, and somehow i managed to get the girls that would initiate everything. holding hands, kissing, feeling, basically any physical contact. It makes no sense whatsoever, but any time ive felt like putting my hand on a girl, putting my arm around her, grabbing her hand, i think that they might not like it or something like that... last month i started dating a girl who was my best friend 3 years ago. i moved back into her area and when we met up again, we instantly connected and had a very strong physical attraction. It is taking me some getting used to, going from best friends to dating. but since i like this girl so much, i forced myself to at least initiate kisses and stuff. its kind of weird though, because ive only ever initiated anything sexual, like feeling and kissing and rubbing and oral, but i have never put my arm around her or grabbed her harnd, or squeezed her body(unless its during foreplay) one more thing. she loves to ask me questions, and i love to answer them, but lately she said she wanted me to ask her questions, ones that are sexual in nature. like an example of the questions she asks me is(these are over facebook): "what did you like most out of the things we did tonight?" is she trying to talk dirty with me, or is she interested in my answers? thank you!
Author SPT Rally USA Posted March 21, 2011 Author Posted March 21, 2011 come on, dont be shy. i know you all have loads of insight to offer on this.
dethfire Posted March 21, 2011 Posted March 21, 2011 I've been the same way and have had to learn to be more aggressive when the girl isn't. basically I learned that if they put themselves in situations where "something" might happen, odds are they want it to happen. so start slow, but make a move man! they are there for a reason, and it's aint to just look at your pretty face
Jynxx Posted March 21, 2011 Posted March 21, 2011 How old are you? If you've had 4 gfs and you're not even 20 (I'm gonna assume this, just got that feeling from your way of writing), then you're doing something right. Just as dethfire says, up the aggression factor, assume that as long as she doesn't say that she doesn't like it or that she is uncomfortable she likes everything you do.
Author SPT Rally USA Posted March 21, 2011 Author Posted March 21, 2011 yeah im 19, and honestly, i dont feel like i have confidence problems or am not aggressive enough. its mostly just the moments when im with my girl on the couch watching a movie or something, and i want to put my arm around her and cuddle, but i dont, because i think that she wont like it or something. i mean am i thinking totally irrationally? i mean girls love that kind of stuff dont they?? its just more of an awkwardness thing. maybe i picked it up from my father as a child or something, but it just doesnt come very easy to me.
dethfire Posted March 21, 2011 Posted March 21, 2011 i mean am i thinking totally irrationally? i mean girls love that kind of stuff dont they?? its just more of an awkwardness thing. maybe i picked it up from my father as a child or something, but it just doesnt come very easy to me. read my post again for the answer. i was the same way.
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