jaygaudi Posted March 21, 2011 Posted March 21, 2011 My girlfriend nicole is 23 and has a baby by another man who I assume is her age or closer to her age than mine. She never has talked about him. I am not sure if this is a good thing or bad. I brought him up talking to her in the car once, and she told me to shut up and not talk about him in front of our daughter. I think of her girl as my daughter, I have known her since she was just a baby. I love my girlfreind and would never leave her unless she cheated which she knows. She has told me when we first met that she has never had a boyfriend only dated before. I sometimes worry she will go back to him since they have a baby someday. She says she never loved a guy before. I am worried if she can have sex with someone and have a baby by a man, and say she never liked him, what will she do to me? I find it rather strange I am not allowed to ask any questions or even say his name. My question is do you think she is lying to me? Why would she not even be able to talk about him? Does it hurt her to remind herself of this man she had a child with, do you think? Could it be that she did love him once? Women, can you have a child with a man and not have any feelings for him at all? She is not a very emotional person I noticed. She gets very happy sometimes, but I find it very strange how unemotional she can be at times. Detached in a way. She never wants affection, she pulls away. I can tell something is bothering her at times, she tells me it's nothing, goes shopping all day, comes home like she's fine. I am not sure exactly what it is, but it feels as if she is cheating at times. Late night calls. Last night, her phone was going off at 5 in the morning. I asked her who it was, she said she didn't care, went back to sleep. I caught her 3 in the morning on her cell phone, in our daughters bedroom, and she brought her daughter in our bed hours ago. Then, when I asked her who she was talking to this late on a weekday, she hung up without saying bye & told me just a friend. She told me she would never cheat. She goes out 3 or 4 times a week with girlfriends, that are single. She smells like alcohol a few times a month and tells me she hasn't been drinking. She is also taking something that makes her incoherent at times. This tells me something is bothering her, and she does not want to tell me. There must be a reason she does not. She knows I will get mad? I told her I would leave her if she ever cheated, but I will always see my daughter. I'm not sure what I'm asking, just need some sort of advice.
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