Call Me Al Posted March 24, 2011 Posted March 24, 2011 I was with this girl for 8 months and I can only imagine what you're going through since you were with her for years. Sometimes the short, fast relationships are the most painful to get over...because there is so much 'what if' about it that remains in your mind. I dealt better with a 3 year relationship ending than I did a 6 month relationship for this very reason.
takemedrunkimhome Posted March 24, 2011 Posted March 24, 2011 Sometimes the short, fast relationships are the most painful to get over...because there is so much 'what if' about it that remains in your mind. I dealt better with a 3 year relationship ending than I did a 6 month relationship for this very reason. that's painfully true. the shorter one's definitely hurt more.
lolo1234 Posted March 25, 2011 Posted March 25, 2011 Jason does rule. lol Seriously thanks for this. There's something to be said for keeping your dignity. I lost a little bit of that with this last breakup by reaching out by text a few times. But I'm building it back day by day. We need to recognize our worthiness on a daily basis. My self esteem is improving as well and it's all because I finallyade a leap into NC . Posting on here has been a huge support for me as well .
fetish Posted March 25, 2011 Posted March 25, 2011 (edited) that's painfully true. the shorter one's definitely hurt more. I wouldn't be so quick to declare that one my friend. I've been in 2-3 to 6 month relationships and an 8 year one. Nothing has hurt me as much as losing out on this 8 year one. We were eachother's best friend and did everything together, went on vacations together, concerns, hot air baloon ride, engagement, and everything. When you've been with someone that long, you lose apart of yourself, then break up, it sets you back pretty hard. On the flip side the shorter relationships still have that new honeymoon phase which probably makes it hurt, but i wouldn't say that it hurts anymore than someone you've spent 1/4 of your life with. I think you're painting that with too broad a paintbrush Edited March 25, 2011 by fetish
takemedrunkimhome Posted March 25, 2011 Posted March 25, 2011 I wouldn't be so quick to declare that one my friend. I've been in 2-3 to 6 month relationships and an 8 year one. Nothing has hurt me as much as losing out on this 8 year one. We were eachother's best friend and did everything together, went on vacations together, concerns, hot air baloon ride, engagement, and everything. When you've been with someone that long, you lose apart of yourself, then break up, it sets you back pretty hard. On the flip side the shorter relationships still have that new honeymoon phase which probably makes it hurt, but i wouldn't say that it hurts anymore than someone you've spent 1/4 of your life with. I think you're painting that with too broad a paintbrush oh yeah, I'm not denying that year long relationships aren't tough. I'm just saying, from my experiences the short ones killed me more, I probably should have specified.
Author JasonRules Posted March 26, 2011 Author Posted March 26, 2011 Jason does rule. lol Seriously thanks for this. There's something to be said for keeping your dignity. I lost a little bit of that with this last breakup by reaching out by text a few times. But I'm building it back day by day. We need to recognize our worthiness on a daily basis. My self esteem is improving as well and it's all because I finallyade a leap into NC . Posting on here has been a huge support for me as well . Lolo, Breakups are by nature difficult especially if you're on the receiving end, but as I get older my coping skills have improved quite a bit. Try to take it one day at a time. Try to keep yourself so busy that you literally have no time to think about your ex. For me, my outlet has been the gym. I'm spending 2-3 hours per day in there and ironically enough one of the side effects is that I have become ripped to the point where a lot of females are checking me out. This does wonders for your self-esteem. It makes you feel wanted and desirable once again. Another outlet is friends. Talk to them about how you feel. Find a "breakup" partner whom you can confide to. In my case I have a girlfriend whom I talk to about how I feel. She's going through a similar situation so we support each other. Today she thanked me for helping her because she "would have lost it" according to her. Take a look in the mirror and tell yourself "I deserve to be happy", "I have qualities that someone will appreciate". Keep your chin up high and be proud of yourself. Try to turn tragedy into opportunity. Use the bad energy and turn it into something good. One day we will wake up and we'll open our eyes, look at the ceiling and suddenly will realize that pain we've been feeling in our chest is no longer there. Yes, we will occasionally think about the past and smile, but we will not hurt forever. And if you feel like this person was "the one" and if it's meant to be, then by some miracle of God or act of fate they will be back one day. People who had genuine feelings for you, always come back. Those who don't come back never did, but even if they don't come back then someone will come along who will make you feel the same giddy feelings you felt with your ex. It doesn't happen everyday, but how great does it feel when you finally meet that person? So we need to pick ourselves from our bootstraps, look our best, project a confidence, and show everyone just how charming we really are and start looking, or if we're lucky enough we'll just bump into them when we least expect it. So keep looking and never ever give up...
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