eastcoastgirl02 Posted March 21, 2011 Posted March 21, 2011 I'm sort of in this dating limbo with this guy. I really don't know if were dating or fwb and if there is any potential future with us or not. If there is not future I would like to just end it as its start to take an emotional toll on me, though if it was up to me, I would like to become more serious. However, we are currently long distance from eachother. The soonest we will see eachother is in two or so weeks, and even that may not work out. Would it be wrong for me to have "the talk" with him, over the phone, to see if there is a future for us or if things can be more serious ?
Cee Posted March 21, 2011 Posted March 21, 2011 I read your other threads on this guy, but clearly something is off with this relationship. I think he has lost interest since the summer. I have gotten the kiss on the forehead thing. Ugh, I hate that. It's such a blatant signal of lost interest. And I would take seriously his comment that he doesn't want a long distance relationship. I think you might as well have a telephone conversation so that you can get closure. Listen to what he has to say and take it at face value. I know you like him, but you deserve better than seeing someone every few months and infrequent contact in between.
Author eastcoastgirl02 Posted March 21, 2011 Author Posted March 21, 2011 I read your other threads on this guy, but clearly something is off with this relationship. I think he has lost interest since the summer. I have gotten the kiss on the forehead thing. Ugh, I hate that. It's such a blatant signal of lost interest. And I would take seriously his comment that he doesn't want a long distance relationship. I think you might as well have a telephone conversation so that you can get closure. Listen to what he has to say and take it at face value. I know you like him, but you deserve better than seeing someone every few months and infrequent contact in between. I understand what you are saying. A couple of things... the only time he gives me a kiss on the forehead is when we are laying in bed both trying to fall asleep, all the other times its on the lips...still a sign of losing interest? We do talk on the phone now more then when we did in the summer when I knew he had interest in me. We'll talk at least once a week sometimes twice, and will text each other 5-7 days of the week, so I wouldn't say we have infrequent contact and he will initate too. And another thing, in about a month we both won't be long distance from eachother, so we we wouldn't be doing LD But there is a very strong point in me that thinks he has lost interest, but I dont know if it's just because when we last talked we were fun having fun and we didn't want anything more. But then there are other things he does that makes me think that he still could have interst in me..for instance, he hasn't seen his family or friends in months too, so the first time he was able to see them at a party, he still took the time to text me wishing me a good day during the middle of that party. To me it would seem like a guy who was not intersted would not have taken the time to acknowledge me during something like that. When he's away, he'll talk about him coming home so he can do something with me, if he lost interest why would he want to continue seeing me? I'm just so conflicted, hence the reason for the talk. I just don't know if it's a good idea on the phone or not.
Cee Posted March 21, 2011 Posted March 21, 2011 People in relationships talk on the phone or Skype when they are far away. Therefore, you taking the step to call him and talk is a good way to indicate you want a relationship. So talk to him on the phone. If he wants a relationship, he'll flat out say that to you. If he doesn't, he'll hem and haw and be vague. Either way, you'll have your answer.
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