lonely79 Posted March 21, 2011 Posted March 21, 2011 I think there used to be a "missing your SO" thread here but i cant find it... I dont know why but it just seems like i have missed my SO sooooo much more lately...maybe its cuz my feelings have gotten stronger, maybe its cuz he has been out of touch a bit more than usual the last week or so (he went on a trip)....its probably both. He called today and we had a nice long talk, I am going there this coming friday to spend 3 nights with him which will be bliss... and im SUPER excited!! but for some reason after our phone call today I just sat there wallowing and was just really really sad. I had to MAKE myself get up and do something before i pathetically texted him something silly (i dont want to always be all needy and complainy). I feel like sometimes I miss him MORE when we have just spoken, texted, IMed, whatever...Do any of you go through this? i know that if i just get up and do something and distract myself, itll feel better in a matter of time but, man! is it intense.
creighton0123 Posted March 21, 2011 Posted March 21, 2011 I find that when routine is broken, I miss him. If we can only IM instead of video chat or if one of us can't sign on in our regular/time place. I miss him excessively now because my planned trip in May might not work out (we had two scheduled trips during his time away, one in May, one in August, and his final return in November).
befreckled Posted March 21, 2011 Posted March 21, 2011 The first month after returning from our trip, I found it almost unbearable which is natural. As a new couple, you'd want to see each other as often as possible. Gradually, I found solace in routine as Creighton said. I started calling our skype sessions dates. And I dismissed societal rules like waiting for him to ask me if I wanted to skype as a replacement for him asking me out. When I wanted to see him on video, I'd say "Shall we meet this weekend for a date?" And he would be happy to set a time and that was that. No fuss about worrying when we would chat next. Also, I bumped up the social activity in my life. I made a stronger effort to hang out with friends, to make plans after work. Simply because, life goes on. It has helped me alot. I still miss him but it isn't every single waking moment.
HeavenOrHell Posted March 21, 2011 Posted March 21, 2011 Yes, I often miss him more after a long phone call or long chat online, I'm finding it bearable though cos I'm looking forward to seeing him in 2 weeks, if we have plenty of communication then I'm fine. I did have phases in the past where I found it pretty horrible and hard to cope with. I think it just goes up and down like this, and sometimes it's harder than other times, all pretty natural It wouldn't have helped that you had less contact last week. You've got the weekend to look forward to I think there used to be a "missing your SO" thread here but i cant find it... I dont know why but it just seems like i have missed my SO sooooo much more lately...maybe its cuz my feelings have gotten stronger, maybe its cuz he has been out of touch a bit more than usual the last week or so (he went on a trip)....its probably both. He called today and we had a nice long talk, I am going there this coming friday to spend 3 nights with him which will be bliss... and im SUPER excited!! but for some reason after our phone call today I just sat there wallowing and was just really really sad. I had to MAKE myself get up and do something before i pathetically texted him something silly (i dont want to always be all needy and complainy). I feel like sometimes I miss him MORE when we have just spoken, texted, IMed, whatever...Do any of you go through this? i know that if i just get up and do something and distract myself, itll feel better in a matter of time but, man! is it intense.
Author lonely79 Posted March 21, 2011 Author Posted March 21, 2011 you know what is so funny? as I was posting this initial thread, my SO texted me out of nowhere (we had already said goodnight for the night), and said how much he missed me and was sooo excited to see me! I know it sounds silly but its not all that normal for him to be so forthcoming and send me extra texts like that, if that makes sense. I am usually the one sending mushy "miss you" texts. haha It really was the perfect timing and made me sooo happy!
Omei Posted March 21, 2011 Posted March 21, 2011 you know what is so funny? as I was posting this initial thread, my SO texted me out of nowhere (we had already said goodnight for the night), and said how much he missed me and was sooo excited to see me! I know it sounds silly but its not all that normal for him to be so forthcoming and send me extra texts like that, if that makes sense. I am usually the one sending mushy "miss you" texts. haha It really was the perfect timing and made me sooo happy! Awww that's so sweet he was feeling the same as you at the same moment, cute!
folieadeux Posted March 21, 2011 Posted March 21, 2011 I think everything you're going through is perfectly normal. Any break in routine I feel the most too. I've also been trying to keep myself busy so it's not so unbearable ALL the time. The weekends are the hardest I find, so I've been planning ahead and doing everything I can to fill them up in the weeks before he gets here. Besides, you'll be seeing each other real soon!
HeavenOrHell Posted March 21, 2011 Posted March 21, 2011 Oh sweet, I'm so glad! I know exactly what you mean, my SO isn't always very forthcoming, and getting an extra mushy text can make me so happy you know what is so funny? as I was posting this initial thread, my SO texted me out of nowhere (we had already said goodnight for the night), and said how much he missed me and was sooo excited to see me! I know it sounds silly but its not all that normal for him to be so forthcoming and send me extra texts like that, if that makes sense. I am usually the one sending mushy "miss you" texts. haha It really was the perfect timing and made me sooo happy!
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