new0726 Posted March 20, 2011 Posted March 20, 2011 We have been working on getting back together for about a month now. Just taking things slow trying not to rush into anything. Until she found out she was pregnant. If anyone read the story of my other post...she did found out that it was mine, but unfortunately she miscarried. Anyway. We have still been working on things. But I was hurt by all the stuff in the past still and would occasionally spout off some snide remark about something she did and it would upset her. Well two days ago I told her I would stop and I have stuck to my word. Today I invite her to go to the mall and maybe out to dinner if she felt up to it. And she said she didnt want to because she was just so tired of my attitude and the way I was acting. I haven't done anything but be wonderfully nice and pleasant to her the last couple days. And even before then, it was just little things every now and then, but I was still very sweet and loving. So we had a long talk, and I poured out my heart to her and she totally just left me hanging. I don't know what else to do now...things were going so well, and then out of nowhere she comes with this... Any ideas anyone?
Movingthrough Posted March 21, 2011 Posted March 21, 2011 We have been working on getting back together for about a month now. Just taking things slow trying not to rush into anything. Until she found out she was pregnant. If anyone read the story of my other post...she did found out that it was mine, but unfortunately she miscarried. Anyway. We have still been working on things. But I was hurt by all the stuff in the past still and would occasionally spout off some snide remark about something she did and it would upset her. Well two days ago I told her I would stop and I have stuck to my word. Today I invite her to go to the mall and maybe out to dinner if she felt up to it. And she said she didn't want to because she was just so tired of my attitude and the way I was acting. I haven't done anything but be wonderfully nice and pleasant to her the last couple days. And even before then, it was just little things every now and then, but I was still very sweet and loving. So we had a long talk, and I poured out my heart to her and she totally just left me hanging. I don't know what else to do now...things were going so well, and then out of nowhere she comes with this... Any ideas anyone? This sounds like kind of a common thing when people get back together. People forget how much resentment they have for the other person. When people breakup its for a reason, so when they get back together that reason still "hangs" over the relationship. You need to take a step back, give it a few days, then when you talk to her be honest. Tell her you do feel a little like this or that because of the past but overall i want (insert here). At this point i think all you can do is be honest, but be honest with yourself too.
Author new0726 Posted March 21, 2011 Author Posted March 21, 2011 Thank you for replying. And that's what I told her today. That I did resent some of the things that had happened, but I was working on it, and the resentment was fading and that I thought things would work out just fine. But...alas, nothing. So I'm just going to give her some space I guess. Thank you!
Author new0726 Posted March 21, 2011 Author Posted March 21, 2011 Well, the only thing we have said to each other today was when she text me to ask me if I worked (because we work together) and I said yes....and that was it, haven't heard from her since. I just don't understand. And I really don't know what to do next.
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