Hopeful30 Posted March 20, 2011 Posted March 20, 2011 Its been 8 months since the break up (we had only been together for 6 months) and I haven't spoken to him since then. We agreed not to keep in touch so we could both move on, but after all these months, even after having good experiences on dates and such, I still cry myself to sleep some nights. I desperately want to call him to see how he is, but I don't. We can't be just friends. If we keep in touch we cycle back into our romance, and we both struggle more (our families don't accept each other etc it complicates both of our lives). I don't know what to do. I barely sleep anymore, even the slightest lyric on the tackiest love song on the radio gets my eyes flowing. I've been dating, i've been having a blast, and my work is progressing, but I still can't get over him. And it's not like I feel this way when i'm down, I feel this way when life is going great. Because I want to share it with him, and I can't. I don't know how to deal with myself, and i'm reaching out.
Author Hopeful30 Posted March 20, 2011 Author Posted March 20, 2011 Many views but no replies. I guess i'm alone on this one.
jane100 Posted March 20, 2011 Posted March 20, 2011 It doesn't really make sense because you don't say why you split up ... perhaps why you haven't had many replies ?
SincereOnlineGuy Posted March 20, 2011 Posted March 20, 2011 You're probably very normal... and "time" is going to be what gets you there, eventually. SOME around you will heal before 8 months, and some will need years to heal. Of course the best means to making it go faster is happening to land in front of someone new who makes your heart leap. You can't really fast-forward that, but you can at least place yourself among more people, and focus your attention on other things in life. (take a night class that you never would have taken before, etc.) Let it take as much time as you need...
Knittress Posted March 20, 2011 Posted March 20, 2011 It's been two and a half years since I've seen, spoken, or heard word of my ex. And I still cry over him sometimes. What you've got to do is try and avoiding thinking about him at all costs and throw yourself into something else - and it's still gonna suck for a good while. No way around it.
Author Hopeful30 Posted March 20, 2011 Author Posted March 20, 2011 Let it take as much time as you need... Thank you <3 It's been two and a half years since I've seen, spoken, or heard word of my ex. And I still cry over him sometimes. What you've got to do is try and avoiding thinking about him at all costs and throw yourself into something else - and it's still gonna suck for a good while. No way around it. Did you leave him? Or did he leave you? I find this influences a lot the time it takes to get over someone.
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