aeion Posted March 20, 2011 Posted March 20, 2011 After a year and a half being together, 6 months of me be her friend to get her back and 1 month of reflection on whether i could be her friend, i finally went NC. For good. I wrote her a letter, a respectful letter telling her how much she had hurt me, how much i love and admire her and that im seeing someone (I am) She replied that she will always love and care for me and that she is willing to be friends again when i am. and she appreciates that i told her what was up. I blocked her from FB, deleted our pictures together and got rid of anything that reminded me of her. Its over. I'm relieved, but im incredibly sad... She's the first ex of mine ive not been able to stay friends with, it feels weird that i consiousely took someone out of my life. I dont know how im supposed to feel... other than i wished i did this earlier. I feel raw, mostly because although she doesnt know it, i dont plan on seeing her again, i dont plan on being friends with her again. Lost right now, just spewing my thoughts down because im trying to make sense of how this impacts me. In many ways not all, but in so many sentimental and emotional ways. Like i said, im seeing someone now, and i really like her, and its going slow. which is good. I guess i just need to focus on the future and let go of the past...
smudge21 Posted March 21, 2011 Posted March 21, 2011 I too thought I could stay friends with the ex, really did want to as well, but the truth was I couldn't - not whilst I still love her. It's that simple. We both still love the ex. Maybe not like we did, but deep down those feelings are still there. In time maybe you can be friends - I know that there are ex's from my past who I've seen in passing and I'm fine with them. The feelings I had have long gone. So I know that the feelings I have now will also one day be gone. Only then will I be able to be friends. I deleted my ex from Facebook only last week and it was the final bit of contact we had. Up until that point we were staying friends, but I just couldn't do it anymore. I was tempted to tell her why, but never did (if she asked, I would tell her). Maybe you could be honest with your ex and explain why you have to go NC on her. You want to be friends, but right now, you're not ready for that.
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