Lionblue92 Posted March 20, 2011 Posted March 20, 2011 Well, 2 weeks ago my ex boyfriend responded to being called out on fb by me, about talking to an ex behind my back. anyway, im thinking he was going to call trying to explain himself. but instead i get a text in the morning saying "I cant believe you right now. dont talk to me for awhile. bye" so my question to everyone here is, is that a break up text? i was not sure either way, i thpught either it was, or he just thought we would not talk for awhile (however long tht would be for him) and then id come crawling back to him eventually, tryna worj things out. i wasnt the one who did anything wrong so his response was very offensive to me. either way, after he sent it i took it more as the first one. so i imediately went on facebook and went single. he saw tht i did buthe didnt go sngle until about 4 hours later. later that night he posted a status tht said "didnt wanna cry. Fu**!" but anyway theres sme background, and my main question is, what do people consider- "I cant believe you right now. dont talk to me for awhile. bye" .....?
Nexus One Posted March 20, 2011 Posted March 20, 2011 (edited) my main question is, what do people consider- "I cant believe you right now. dont talk to me for awhile. bye" .....? When a guy says that, he can't believe you acted the way you did and doesn't want to talk to you for a while. In my opinion though you guys had a childish exchange of words and actions here. A recent study amongst divorce lawyers revealed that currently 30% of divorces are caused by something that happened on Facebook. In my opinion that's not the fault of Facebook though, it's just that people transferred the stupid sh*t they said and did in real life to Facebook. Edited March 20, 2011 by Nexus One
oaks Posted March 20, 2011 Posted March 20, 2011 but anyway theres sme background, and my main question is, what do people consider- "I cant believe you right now. dont talk to me for awhile. bye" .....? It means what it says (and probably that he was angry/upset) but now he has a story to tell about how he was dumped on facebook. Epic fail.
Kindaconfused_77 Posted March 20, 2011 Posted March 20, 2011 There's a lesson to be learnt here on communication, such as.. dont communicate through texting and facebook when it comes to important relationship issues! At the very least pick up the damn phone, have all the facts straight and clear before "breaking up on fb".
Author Lionblue92 Posted March 20, 2011 Author Posted March 20, 2011 So are you guys saying that it wasnt a break up text? Are u saying that i jumped the gun by going single? (cause what am i really going to do, respond like, r u breaking up with me??? when i did nothing wrong, and yea, he definitely should have called anyway)
Author Lionblue92 Posted March 20, 2011 Author Posted March 20, 2011 When a guy says that, he can't believe you acted the way you did and doesn't want to talk to you for a while. In my opinion though you guys had a childish exchange of words and actions here. A recent study amongst divorce lawyers revealed that currently 30% of divorces are caused by something that happened on Facebook. In my opinion that's not the fault of Facebook though, it's just that people transferred the stupid sh*t they said and did in real life to Facebook. whats the significance of bolding awhile? Putting yorself in his shoes....if u are a guy, and u sent a text like this what would u be meaning exactly?
Kindaconfused_77 Posted March 20, 2011 Posted March 20, 2011 It means just that, he didnt want to talk to you for a while, for whatever reason he was pissed off and wanted a little time to cool off. If he had wanted to break up with you he would have said something like "We're done". You jumped the gun.
Author Lionblue92 Posted March 20, 2011 Author Posted March 20, 2011 Ok, well i think we can agree that if somebody is ballsy enough to send a text like that to their boyfriend/girlfriend, especially since they were in the wrong, that they pretty much had it coming...right?
Kindaconfused_77 Posted March 20, 2011 Posted March 20, 2011 Perhaps he didnt know he was in the wrong? Perhaps this whole thing can be notched up to lack of communication and misunderstanding? Are you comfortable in dumping someone due to a misunderstanding? Sure, he shoulda called you, isntead of texting, but likewise you could have called him instead of dumping him on FB ESPECIALLY since its clear you didnt even know wether he was breaking up with you or not. On a TEXT. Next time, pick up the phone.
Author Lionblue92 Posted March 20, 2011 Author Posted March 20, 2011 i personally think he was embarrased, and angry, but didnt know wat to say at that time so tht was his first reaction. if he wasnt trying to break up with me in that text....than when he saw tht i went single, why didnt he just call? And its been two weeks now of no contact from either of us.
Nexus One Posted March 20, 2011 Posted March 20, 2011 (edited) Ok, well i think we can agree that if somebody is ballsy enough to send a text like that to their boyfriend/girlfriend, especially since they were in the wrong, that they pretty much had it coming...right? About the fact that he talked to his ex behind your back. Are you sure he left you out of the loop on purpose? Edited March 20, 2011 by Nexus One
collegeguy_24 Posted March 20, 2011 Posted March 20, 2011 Everyone already said it, he said not to talk for a while, you jumped the gun, and as such, you put yourself in this position.
Author Lionblue92 Posted March 21, 2011 Author Posted March 21, 2011 i dont know what 'awhile' is supposed to be. if you are my boyfriend and u know u were in the wrong, angry or not u cant tell me when and why i can tal to u. thats ridiculous... and he could have called me to say tht we werent breaking up or ask why i went single.
collegeguy_24 Posted March 21, 2011 Posted March 21, 2011 The fact that you changed your status to single could have come as a surprise to him. He may have been upset at you for whatever it was that caused all this crap. Just as you were upset at him. He may have just wanted space to think so he could talk to you again with a clear mind and control of his emotions. By breaking up with him like that, he has good reason not to call you! He's in shock, he didn't expect you to dump him, especially over facebook status and not in person.
Author Lionblue92 Posted March 21, 2011 Author Posted March 21, 2011 The fact that you changed your status to single could have come as a surprise to him. He may have been upset at you for whatever it was that caused all this crap. Just as you were upset at him. He may have just wanted space to think so he could talk to you again with a clear mind and control of his emotions. By breaking up with him like that, he has good reason not to call you! He's in shock, he didn't expect you to dump him, especially over facebook status and not in person. the reason that i dumped him is because he responded like that to a situation that hurt me, upset me, and he didnt even care to call, just send me that text. i thought it as ballsy of him to send that. basically, he was in the wrong and knew it and got mad at me...yea, it was on his wall but he kind of deserved to be called out. so with all that, its been 2 weeks of no contact. do u all think tht he should have called to talk about it at some point/
Author Lionblue92 Posted March 21, 2011 Author Posted March 21, 2011 absolutely not. he would be a fool to call you, wouldn't you say? I mean, what the heck is there to discuss? he asked for space, & you responded in a manner that looked as though you were done with the relationship. seems pretty clear to me. case closed. if he had an ex (or some other girl) waiting in the wings, it's all the more reason not to contact you & move on. there is usually no coming back from abusing someone's fb page. you're likely labelled the psycho fb ex. ..lol oh. well he can fall back on the girl who lives 6 hours away from him i guess. not like he can really see her tho. and psycho..naw
Author Lionblue92 Posted March 21, 2011 Author Posted March 21, 2011 and we were both in the wrong in alot of ways. im probably better off wthout someone who was trying to be sneaky, then reacting in a way like that anyway. i noticed that since we broke up he still has not removed his pic album of me on fb. not even the Caption that says: "shes the love of my life"
oaks Posted March 21, 2011 Posted March 21, 2011 i noticed that since we broke up he still has not removed his pic album of me on fb. not even the Caption that says: "shes the love of my life" This happened 2 weeks ago and you're still checking out his facebook page? Just call him already.
Author Lionblue92 Posted March 21, 2011 Author Posted March 21, 2011 This happened 2 weeks ago and you're still checking out his facebook page? Just call him already. I cant, i think he is tryna talk to someon he used to go with, who lives in PA, he lives in detroit...they have never met and they cant see each other, so i personally dont think it will work out. but even with that said theres no point in putting myself out there to talk to him when he has a little distraction right now. their even "married" on fb. but i do think that him not being ready to remove my picture, or the caption must mean...something
oaks Posted March 21, 2011 Posted March 21, 2011 but i do think that him not being ready to remove my picture, or the caption must mean...something You're assuming that he's actively not-removing the picture. Could he just be busy living the rest of his life and is currently unaware of the significance of the picture/caption?
Author Lionblue92 Posted March 21, 2011 Author Posted March 21, 2011 I took that fact into consideration. But then a friend of mine "liked" (facebook) the picture and caption so she could bring it to his attention, to see if he would delete one or the other. but he wont. so wat do u think?
oaks Posted March 21, 2011 Posted March 21, 2011 so wat do u think? I think you're putting a lot of energy in to this. Call him or move on.
Author Lionblue92 Posted March 21, 2011 Author Posted March 21, 2011 yeah. im not actually sure if i want to really be with him or not right now. ill send a happy easter text to him. lol. im not ready nor do i fully want to reach out this soon because i dont know how i feel.
Author Lionblue92 Posted March 21, 2011 Author Posted March 21, 2011 so im moving on until further notice, i guess.
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