Vickstar Posted March 20, 2011 Posted March 20, 2011 Just having one of my random days when i think about my ex and i started thinking about the girl he left me for, she wants to be a writer and shes going travelling in south america and mexico for 6 months soon so clearly she has a lot of ambition. When me and my ex were together i was working in a terribly paid job and i did have ambition but didnt know what direction to take, he even said to me "i really think you need to go back to college, just something to get your head focused on" There were obviously other reasons why he broke up with me but im starting to think that the ambition thing could be the main reason and the thing is now that we've broken up i have so much ambition now its unbelievable! i know what i want to do in life, im focusing on going to college and working my way up. But the thing is, my ex has never had ambition, hes quite happy working in his crappy job and the only thing he was ambitious about was getting a house which he now has with his work colleague, So my question is do guys prefer women with ambition and why?
LD1981 Posted March 20, 2011 Posted March 20, 2011 Women with ambition can be a turn on.. but at the same time for me the only ambition i need from them is love and trust, what they choose to do with regards to work etc is not important to me at all. As long as my significant other is happy in what she does then I'm happy for her wether that be a stay at home mum, working in mcdonalds or high classed professional. As long as you have the same ideals on life then why should it matter?
depplover_1980 Posted March 20, 2011 Posted March 20, 2011 I think you're overanalysing why your ex moved on and have found a major difference and pinpointing it on this one thing! Overall some men will be turned on by an ambitious women, while others will find it threatening; it's all about personal position and taste.
Fern Posted March 20, 2011 Posted March 20, 2011 My ex is now with a single parent who works part time in a cafe. I have a very cool job and tons of ambition. I don't think men care that much about career stuff. Maybe it's the aura of confidence and independence and self-sufficiency that her ambitions and goals give her that he likes? Rather than the goals themselves? My exes new girl is all faux-arty. He likes that pretentious crap. Fancies herself as a photographer (her photos are rubbish), is all about the 'vintage' clothes and interior design, blah blah. I'm quite certain that's what attracted him. I was very quirky when we first met too - outspoken and feisty. However once he got me hooked on him he started having issues with all the things he liked at the start. You just couldn't make him happy. I was so worn down and depressed after 6 years dealing with his crap that I'm quite sure she seemed like God's gift to him when she started paying him attention. He can be very charming with strangers. Haha! I'm quite sure she's seen his horrible side by now. 6 months on and I'm looking and feeling like a new woman and SHE'S the one having to deal with his demands and his moods and having to change her behaviour to keep him happy. Whatever it was he saw in me that first attracted him, he went on to systematically eradicate it from my personality. He'll do the same thing to her. Who cares what he sees in her. You deserve better.
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