somedude81 Posted March 21, 2011 Posted March 21, 2011 My girlfriend told me that when she was multi-dating she could not emotionally connect with any of the men she dated. She knew she liked me but she kept bringing in an influx of guys, and she couldn't completely connect with me. She said if I hadn't had said that I loved her she would have kept the cycle going. It wasn't until then that she said she broke it off with those other guys secretly and saw how her feelings progressed. That's an excellent point. Just because she can multi-date (basically any woman can) doesn't mean she should. It doesn't do her any favors, and it's harder on the guys than it should be. As for guys multidating, the few guys that can pull it off, do it to sleep with as many girls as possible.
oaks Posted March 21, 2011 Posted March 21, 2011 As for guys multidating, some of the few guys that can pull it off, do it to sleep with as many girls as possible. Fixed that for you.
Author makelemonade1974 Posted March 22, 2011 Author Posted March 22, 2011 Well I think multi-dating is a complete mess. I met another guy on match who's gorgeous and wants to take me caving. And a guy from work asked me out last week, and next week I have a date w/ Mr. 22 yr old arm candy who is a musician and happens to have the same name as my son (which is weird). How does one pick? Holy s h i t. This is why I gave up dating before. Just take it easy on the kissing I guess. Yikes.
mr.dream merchant Posted March 22, 2011 Posted March 22, 2011 Personally don't mind if a woman of my interest is seeing other guys, as long as she's honest about it and isn't sleeping with any of the other guys. Although the chances of a woman openly admitting this or answering truthfully if the question arises are slim, I still keep my hopes up that there are actually honest women out there. BUT, upon finding out a woman is seeing other guys, one cannot help but care less for her as in I just become indifferent towards her. The efforts die down, the initiative does as well, and a little bit of my attraction to. Maybe cause of the possibility she's actually sleeping with other men, and possibly putting herself at risk for STD's, and also the possibility of her playing me for a fool. Besides those possibilities, reasons why? Perhaps I'll never know - this is why a woman who doesn't multi-date is PREFERRED, speaking for myself only. Another factor may be options. Some guys take what they can get but I'm rather picky about it all and can afford to be.
Crazy Magnet Posted March 22, 2011 Posted March 22, 2011 I always assume the guy I am seeing from an online site is seeing other women as well until we have "the talk" and agree to not see anyone else. I'm still grappling with my own line. I asked the exBF what he does b/c I knew he often multi-dated in his life. He said he would make out with everybody and if a couple of articles of clothing came off, so be it. He said he never slept with anyone until they were exclusive though, which is actually true. I'm now leaning towards at least kiss everybody. What if they are a terrible kisser and it completely ruins all the attraction?!?
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