havehope Posted March 20, 2011 Posted March 20, 2011 I just sent a million texts and emails yesterday... professing my love still and then more later saying sorry for being clingy and crazy - he sent one text that said don't worry about it. Then today i sent a million texts saying thanks for being so cool about it and sorry if yesterday made him feel weird and sorry for being that way and I ended up doing the same thing... a million texts and emails and no response. i'm crazy and i dont want to be like this anymore. I don't want to send more texts saying sorry.
spackle Posted March 20, 2011 Posted March 20, 2011 then don't. give your phone to a friend for the weekend or at least get one of them involved to keep you away from the computer for 48hours! put yourself in his shoes and think how you'd feel if someone was acting that way towards you.
mr.goodguy Posted March 20, 2011 Posted March 20, 2011 I agree with spackle. Look from his point of view. Every time his phone 'beeps' with a new message he probably groans about shakes his head. DO NOT TEXT OR EMAIL. If your point is to try to get him back, go NC now and stay that way. I know you're missing him but if you want any chance to rekindle this relationship, do not initiate contact. In fact, occupy yourself with something and have fun.
jquest1280 Posted March 20, 2011 Posted March 20, 2011 It's about "dignity." But, I'm not judging. I did the same thing myself. If only I knew about LS (if it even existed back then), these guys would have told me about NC, and I could have walked away with my head held high.
Author havehope Posted March 20, 2011 Author Posted March 20, 2011 Thanks guys. I guess the background is we were rekindling a second chance and then recently he got sketchy and stopped calling and stopped talking about our future... hence my original post with all the texts and me dropping the L bomb - with no response. I just feel pathetic trying so hard to get him to respond. I just want acknowledgement. We were fine last month
stopthemadness Posted March 20, 2011 Posted March 20, 2011 I agree with jquest1280 its about dignity. I did the same thing you did. But on a different scale. I would go like a week of n/c then cave. He would email me bk or whatever then one of us would call the other. Then it would start all over again. Will one day. he told me had met smone he thought he could see himself in a relationship with and that we shouldnt talk anymore! OMG it hurt soo bad. but i knew he was looking for smone one cause he would tell me about women he met on line. After he told me that, we talked a little more later day. I told him I would never contact him again, and I havent!! That was 2 months ago 2day. Iam so proud of myself. Because if I dont have anything else, I have my dignity. I walked away with my head held high(crying maybe) But still head held high. Iam not saying its easy. Because its not. But look, it can be done. Iam doing it, And I was soo broken I put myself in theaphy. I still see a therapist about every 2 weeks, it works for me. I was with that man for 8+ years so am allowing myself time to heal. Soo stop the madness now!! Go NO CONTACT asap. Then and only then can the healing start. And you know what? By begging and pleading your just pushing him away. I read on here. I best gift we can give our exs is the gift of missing us...Think about it...good luck
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