Really thought about everything..but im thinking of sending her a message.

[turokturok5]

Well she dumped me 6 weeks ago, we dated for 2 months and i was her first boyfriend, we're 18. She told me we weren't mean to be and cried and said she really wanted to be good friends. I tried to beg her to take me back 2 days later but she said it can't happen, i later on found out that she actually dumped me for being too clingy and i felt silly. I decided to turn my hurt into anger and move on with the belief that she was a terrible person and i deserve way way better and i deleted her from facebook and whenever i saw her at our group gatherings i didn't pay her much attention.

 

Anyway its been 6 weeks since then. Prior to deleting her off facebook, when i saw her with our group she seemed happy, talking to me sometimes and when she left she kept thanking me for having them. I deleted her off facebook and saw her a few days later, i don't think she had noticed, but her friend told me "she was still cut up over the break-up." A few weeks later my anger sub-sided and i ended up re-adding her because i wanted her as a friend still, this made her realise i deleted her in the first place and she apparently got really pissed off and started telling everyone how immature i was and that she wouldn't accept it.

 

She started really becoming close to my mate, inviting him out together and talking to him heaps so i got pretty angry again. And started making assumptions that our whole relationship was just a stepping stone for her to get together with him. Now i realise it was a pretty stupid thing to assume all these bad things about her, because the reason i loved her in the first place was because of how nice she was. I realise now that it was mainly my fault for our break-up. She started making me feel insecure because she began to reserve herself - not wanting to catch up with me, always wanting to catch up in the group and if i group thing wasn't happenning i'd suggest we'd do something together and she made an excuse to not, so i felt as if she didn't want to be with me. I got drunk one night while we had a group thing and we argued about it, exept i acted a bit rude and didn't really listen to what she had to say. An un-expected change of plans occured a few days later, i thought it was unfair because i was waiting for her and she didn't let me know, but i kind of blew things out of proportion and she dumped me a few days later. The fact that i didn't listen to her and was rude is what i realise now.

I want to send her a m

essage apologizing for the way i acted towards the end of our relationship and after breaking-up. The only thing stopping me is the fact that she hasn't initiated contact with me in 6 weeks and she is really close with my best friend now and probably has moved on. I texted her last week congratulating her on her license and she texted back, but i haven't really heard from her since. I was about to send her the message y'day, when her best friend started talking to me and i asked her if i should, she said "honestly, i don't think you should, only if you think it'l work..." i said what do you mean by do you think it will work she said "that she accepts your apology" does this mean she really hates me or something, i mean things were a lot different after she found out i deleted her off facebook, the group gatherings she didn't talk to me at all. Last week i was sitting with my mates, she offers them both a piece of gum but ignores me.

 

Will sending her a message, just telling her i know where i went wrong, im sorry for what happened and that im thankful for the good times we had, will this make it easier to move on? I'll know then that she understands i don't feel any negative feelings towards her and that im sorry for what i did. Or should i just leave it how it is and pin it on experience. It's just really difficult because i liked her for such a long time and finally got together with her, then lost her so suddenly, not just the relationship but the friendship too. I just don't know what to do because it's most likely that my best friend and her will date.

[Thatguyintx]

If it were me, I would not send the message. It doesn't really seem like you owe it to her. Just my thought.

 

Your best friend is going to start dating her???