Nikki Sahagin Posted March 20, 2011 Posted March 20, 2011 ....if you take out of the equation men you are not attracted to, do not match with personality wise, have emotional/mental problems, are gay/bisexual, cheat or have attitude problems with women. I suspect you can also apply all of these to the female dating scene. Sometimes I'm glad I'm single!
Els Posted March 20, 2011 Posted March 20, 2011 It actually is. That is precisely why I balk at the trigger-happy reactions of people who advocate breaking up at the slightest tiny issue. Gf put on 10 lbs? Break up with her! Wife doesn't like wearing pantyhose? Break up with her! Bf took 2 hours to reply your text? Break up with him! What? I don't know about others, but it IS rare to find a good match for me, very rare, so when I do find one I do everything I can within reason to make it work, as long as I see that the other person is trying the same.
Pyro Posted March 20, 2011 Posted March 20, 2011 would you say then that the pickier the person is the more successful they will be at dating? Sounds like the less picky people settle for someone whom they aren't fully compatible with. No one said dating is easy.
tincanman99 Posted March 20, 2011 Posted March 20, 2011 ....if you take out of the equation men you are not attracted to, do not match with personality wise, have emotional/mental problems, are gay/bisexual, cheat or have attitude problems with women. I suspect you can also apply all of these to the female dating scene. Sometimes I'm glad I'm single! Dont delude yourself into believing that all women are perfect. Men have the same problems as women in this regard.
stepka Posted March 20, 2011 Posted March 20, 2011 Dont delude yourself into believing that all women are perfect. Men have the same problems as women in this regard. She didn't! We women realize that there's all kinds of unattractive women, incompatible women, cheaters, and lesbians out there too. (Sorry gay ladies, didn't mean to lump you in a negative category, but you don't go for men, which is what I meant here.) ....if you take out of the equation men you are not attracted to, do not match with personality wise, have emotional/mental problems, are gay/bisexual, cheat or have attitude problems with women. I suspect you can also apply all of these to the female dating scene. Sometimes I'm glad I'm single! It gets even worse when you get over 50 and realize that every potential date from a very small pool is in a relationship, just coming out of one, or trying to get into one with someone else. And that's even if he's willing to date someone his own age, which often isn't the case. Of the 3 men who are wanting to date me right now: 1. married 2. has stalker tendencies 3. is still hung up on his ex whom he divorced over 6 years ago
Mrlonelyone Posted March 20, 2011 Posted March 20, 2011 Don't see why you have to ruel out a bi guy. We know not to bite.
Sweetie1977 Posted March 20, 2011 Posted March 20, 2011 The cute ones seem to be gay and the nice trustworthy ones are ugly
Woggle Posted March 20, 2011 Posted March 20, 2011 It is just as hard for a man to find a good women. When you take out the man haters, dishonest cheating women, women with tons of issues and gold diggers what is left? Not all women are like this but most who have none of these qualities are already taken.
SmileFace Posted March 20, 2011 Posted March 20, 2011 It is just as hard for a man to find a good women. When you take out the man haters, dishonest cheating women, women with tons of issues and gold diggers what is left? Not all women are like this but most who have none of these qualities are already taken. You are actually married, right?
Woggle Posted March 20, 2011 Posted March 20, 2011 You are actually married, right? Yes I am but I am damn lucky.
Author Nikki Sahagin Posted March 20, 2011 Author Posted March 20, 2011 Dont delude yourself into believing that all women are perfect. Men have the same problems as women in this regard. I actually said you can apply the same to men's chances with women also
Cee Posted March 20, 2011 Posted March 20, 2011 If you ask anyone in a good relationship, they will tell you the pairing was improbable. And that is why people feel so lucky to have found someone. It's like hitting the numbers in the lottery. It's a near miracle that people find compatible partners. Yet somehow it happens. But there's no magic formula except to keep your face in public and be available to talk to new people.
Untouchable_Fire Posted March 20, 2011 Posted March 20, 2011 ....if you take out of the equation men you are not attracted to, do not match with personality wise, have emotional/mental problems, are gay/bisexual, cheat or have attitude problems with women. I suspect you can also apply all of these to the female dating scene. Sometimes I'm glad I'm single! Ok... so you are saying because the pool of quality men is so small, you are happy that you have not found any guy who is good? Look, the world is much smaller than it used to be... if you can't find anyone good it's because you are either not looking or not quality yourself. I hear women around me complain about a lack of quality available men, however they are not what I would consider quality females. I think in many areas this is exacerbated for U.S women by competition from other countries. Because the vast majority of women here are low quality cheats, who are terrible mothers, and have zero to no morals... outsourcing is the solution for quality men. The leftovers are the guys who the top 25% quality U.S. women don't want, and foreign women wont touch. So, your basically hoping for the bottom end of the quality guy spectrum. Maybe you should happily embrace your inner spinster?
Author Nikki Sahagin Posted April 13, 2011 Author Posted April 13, 2011 Ok... so you are saying because the pool of quality men is so small, you are happy that you have not found any guy who is good? Look, the world is much smaller than it used to be... if you can't find anyone good it's because you are either not looking or not quality yourself. I hear women around me complain about a lack of quality available men, however they are not what I would consider quality females. I think in many areas this is exacerbated for U.S women by competition from other countries. Because the vast majority of women here are low quality cheats, who are terrible mothers, and have zero to no morals... outsourcing is the solution for quality men. The leftovers are the guys who the top 25% quality U.S. women don't want, and foreign women wont touch. So, your basically hoping for the bottom end of the quality guy spectrum. Maybe you should happily embrace your inner spinster? LOL well the thing is...I have a split personality disorder when it comes to singledom. I think I am destined to be a free spirit really but I am only 21! And its not that I don't think there are quality men in the world...but finding quality men who are ALSO bangable and attractive is hard for me personally.
BeginAgain Posted April 13, 2011 Posted April 13, 2011 The pickings don't seem to be that slim unless you only use dating sites when seeking women.
Untouchable_Fire Posted April 13, 2011 Posted April 13, 2011 LOL well the thing is...I have a split personality disorder when it comes to singledom. I think I am destined to be a free spirit really but I am only 21! And its not that I don't think there are quality men in the world...but finding quality men who are ALSO bangable and attractive is hard for me personally. Haha... You have years to figure this out. Though I can say that if your struggling with attraction issues you may have a bit of a problem. I've known too many guys that won't date a woman who doesn't wear a size 0 with a DD bra and a supermodel face. It's just silly, but I really think the media hands us a high standard and tells us that looks mean more than they do.
BeginAgain Posted April 13, 2011 Posted April 13, 2011 Everyone, both men and women, has ridiculously high expectations, standards and "lists" for the opposite sex. Relax the standards, and you start seeing the goodness, the kindness, and yes, even the hotness in many more people. I'm finding that quite hard with women who are 5'4" or under and are 200+ pounds.
SJC2008 Posted April 13, 2011 Posted April 13, 2011 I think its because most men and women want it all, good looks, money and personality. If youre looking for all 3 then yes the pickings are slim and will always be. If you lower your standards a tad (not judging you just a general opinion) you might have better luck. Take a guy like me, funny, understanding and affectionate. Im not a bad looking guy but my problem is that i dont have a 6pack and am a little shy AT first. With my experice women want to be SWEPT OFF THEIR FEET ON DATE 1 or its over. For me not to give someone a 2nd date they would have to be a total whackjob. My rule of thumb is date 1: benefit of the doubt, date 2: pesrson should be more comfortable, date 3: decision wheter or not worth pursuing. If a man or woman cant give someone at least 2 dates to feel them out then they are not worth dating.
Ross MwcFan Posted April 13, 2011 Posted April 13, 2011 I'd have pretty much anything, but nothing wants me.
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