Eternal Sunshine Posted March 20, 2011 Posted March 20, 2011 (edited) I know it's only been 3 weeks but things are flowing really nicely. Last night, I finally met his best friend and his girlfriend. We had dinner and I was initially worried because his best friend is a psychologist. But it was really relaxed and I get along with them well. There was never a moment of strained conversation. They invited us to go with them on the winery tour next Sat. I am looking forward to spending more time in their company. It's like, me and bf are so similar in many ways that the friends he picks are probably people I would have picked as friends myself. After the dinner, I made him come and watch Catfish with me. He is a good sport with me dragging him to these indie movies that most guys hate. He is just my equal in everything. We earn the same, we own properties that are of the same value etc etc. All of the other guys I dated were below me in that sense. I didn't really care but they didn't like it. I am meeting his parents in a couple of weeks (they live in another state). His dad is a surgeon but when my bf told him about my Phd in math he (dad) said that he is now scared to talk to me as math was one of his weakest subjects Overall, it's been smooth sailing so far and miles away from anything I have experienced during the past year. I didn't meet this guy online though, but at a house party through mutual friends. I asked around and everybody only had good things to say about him. I know it's still early and if it ends tomorrow it won't be the end of the world. I just thought I would post a happy thread for a change P.S. I also like that he is really assertive. He picks the restaurants, makes the bookings, thinks of interesting things to do on dates - rather than inviting me to hang at his place on date no 2... Edited March 20, 2011 by Eternal Sunshine
threebyfate Posted March 20, 2011 Posted March 20, 2011 I'm sincerely happy for you! It's an amazing feeling when you finally find someone who understands you, where you understand them. It's like coming home! The online environment isn't for everyone which is why I steered away from it, preferring real life meetings instead of what felt like catalogue shopping.
Macaw Posted March 20, 2011 Posted March 20, 2011 It's great to hear that you got lucky in the real world. Congratulations.
betterdeal Posted March 20, 2011 Posted March 20, 2011 That's good to hear. Did you resolve the issue of the him expecting you to drop your girl's night out in favour of dinner with his friends to your satisfaction?
fishtaco Posted March 20, 2011 Posted March 20, 2011 Good for you. Mine isn't going well. But, that's life.
Author Eternal Sunshine Posted March 20, 2011 Author Posted March 20, 2011 That's good to hear. Did you resolve the issue of the him expecting you to drop your girl's night out in favour of dinner with his friends to your satisfaction? Yes, he is a good communicator so he doesn't go PA when something is bothering him. He agreed that it's healthy to have boys or girls nights occasionally. When I saw him on Sat. he was as loving as ever so I didn't detect that he was still pissed about it. He is having paintball day with the boys soon and he actually asked me if I am OK with that. I told him of course!! Other than that, he called me just now and we had effortless 30 minute convo just teasing each other. I mentioned the other night that I want to go to the the theatre - so he got us tickets for Weds night
Author Eternal Sunshine Posted March 20, 2011 Author Posted March 20, 2011 I'm sincerely happy for you! It's an amazing feeling when you finally find someone who understands you, where you understand them. It's like coming home! The online environment isn't for everyone which is why I steered away from it, preferring real life meetings instead of what felt like catalogue shopping. Thanks TBF. Online environment isn't for me either, I learned the hard way. The feeling of just effortless communication is amazing
betterdeal Posted March 20, 2011 Posted March 20, 2011 Yes, he is a good communicator so he doesn't go PA when something is bothering him. He agreed that it's healthy to have boys or girls nights occasionally. When I saw him on Sat. he was as loving as ever so I didn't detect that he was still pissed about it. He is having paintball day with the boys soon and he actually asked me if I am OK with that. I told him of course!! Other than that, he called me just now and we had effortless 30 minute convo just teasing each other. I mentioned the other night that I want to go to the the theatre - so he got us tickets for Weds night Sounds good to me! Just keep on with the communicating and understanding each other's viewpoints.
Author Eternal Sunshine Posted March 20, 2011 Author Posted March 20, 2011 Good for you. Mine isn't going well. But, that's life. What's happening with yours fishtaco? Maybe we can help with advice.
ConflictedGuy27 Posted March 20, 2011 Posted March 20, 2011 he let you drag him to an indie film called catfish...? I dunno if that qualifies as assertive on his part. I would've dropped you off. your reverse cowgirl better be tops. ...catfish.
Author Eternal Sunshine Posted March 20, 2011 Author Posted March 20, 2011 he let you drag him to an indie film called catfish...? I dunno if that qualifies as assertive on his part. I would've dropped you off. your reverse cowgirl better be tops. ...catfish. It's a good film...and we haven't had sex yet FYI.
oaks Posted March 20, 2011 Posted March 20, 2011 I just thought I would post a happy thread for a change Sounds like great news!
Author Eternal Sunshine Posted March 20, 2011 Author Posted March 20, 2011 Hopefully it doesn't crash and burn like the last one
denise_xo Posted March 20, 2011 Posted March 20, 2011 Hopefully it doesn't crash and burn like the last one Well, only one way to find out best of luck!
Author Eternal Sunshine Posted March 20, 2011 Author Posted March 20, 2011 Aw thanks guys. For once it's not all doom and gloom for me
Author Eternal Sunshine Posted March 20, 2011 Author Posted March 20, 2011 Are you by any chance Ocean Girl? D'oh of course I am
Mme. Chaucer Posted March 21, 2011 Posted March 21, 2011 "Catfish." What an appropriate choice of a movie.
threebyfate Posted March 21, 2011 Posted March 21, 2011 ES, dare I ask why you already have a Christmas avatar?
Star Gazer Posted March 21, 2011 Posted March 21, 2011 Two days ago, you were still whining about the NSA guy rejecting you. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t269556/
Author Eternal Sunshine Posted March 21, 2011 Author Posted March 21, 2011 ES, dare I ask why you already have a Christmas avatar? LOL it's totally random TBF.
Author Eternal Sunshine Posted March 21, 2011 Author Posted March 21, 2011 Two days ago, you were still whining about the NSA guy rejecting you. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t269556/ Yes, but not because I am into that guy. I wanted to intellectually understand the reason why. That and my ego was hurt.
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