i23 Posted March 20, 2011 Posted March 20, 2011 (edited) I've recently broken up with my girlfriend of almost 2 years now. She was my first true love I think. We were absolutely perfect for each other, it was very much like we just had a connection and an understanding of everything. Im sure everyone knows what I mean by this. I loved her more than anything, and Im pretty sure she felt the same about me. We spent pretty much every second we could together, doing new fun things every day. I wasnt a bad boyfriend. I was possibly the best. I am handsome(not being arrogant but its a factor) I stay in shape, Im kind, I turned up at any weird hour for her for anything, I have money and a brain that will take me far. But I dont care about that, I want to be a musician and just live with her. But what happened which is painfull, is she lost some weight and came into herself, and felt trapped and wants to go out and live the best years of her life (ie F other guys). Im trying to move on. Im really trying, but she doesn't believe me. I still love her but Im not contacting her at all, I know it will make no difference. airepugheg5 wpegouhsepgu insth rt All this means very little, the reality is the girl I loved left me still in love. And now she is flaunting her sexual escapades infront of me. I know I'll be ok. But I'll always miss the first love in my mind. Need some advice. Edited March 20, 2011 by i23
The dot Posted March 20, 2011 Posted March 20, 2011 I've recently broken up with my girlfriend of almost 2 years now. She was my first true love I think. We were absolutely perfect for each other, it was very much like we just had a connection and an understanding of everything. Im sure everyone knows what I mean by this. I loved her more than anything, and Im pretty sure she felt the same about me. We spent pretty much every second we could together, doing new fun things every day. I wasnt a bad boyfriend. I was possibly the best. I am handsome(not being arrogant but its a factor) I stay in shape, Im kind, I turned up at any weird hour for her for anything, I have money and a brain that will take me far. But I dont care about that, I want to be a musician and just live with her. But what happened which is painfull, is she lost some weight and came into herself, and felt trapped and wants to go out and live the best years of her life (ie F other guys). Im trying to move on. Im really trying, but she doesn't believe me. I still love her but Im not contacting her at all, I know it will make no difference. airepugheg5 wpegouhsepgu insth rt All this means very little, the reality is the girl I loved left me still in love. And now she is flaunting her sexual escapades infront of me. I know I'll be ok. But I'll always miss the first love in my mind. Need some advice. Short answer: move on. I'm guessing from your moniker and the tone of your post that you're still young. Remember, there will be others after her. Personally I don't think anyone belongs in a serious relationship before they are at least 25 anyway, because this sort of thing happens. Just go "no contact" with her, and never speak to her again. It will start to get easier in about a week or so. BTW, "turning up at every hour" and "spending every second together" isn't always healthy or even attractive to the other person. Next time have a bit of self-respect and a few interests of your own.
Author i23 Posted March 20, 2011 Author Posted March 20, 2011 I realise our mistakes. We got too serious. And nothing can survive these years. I am trying to move on. Last night I met a wonderful girl. Its just frustrating me that my ex wont leave me alone, and keeps trying to make contact, only to tell me things she knows will drive me mad. I am young, and Im trying to being as realistic about this as I can. The dream girl is out there I guess. Just need to here it. 3 of my best friends just got into some serious relationships, so there no help
The dot Posted March 20, 2011 Posted March 20, 2011 I realise our mistakes. We got too serious. And nothing can survive these years. I am trying to move on. Last night I met a wonderful girl. Its just frustrating me that my ex wont leave me alone, and keeps trying to make contact, only to tell me things she knows will drive me mad. I am young, and Im trying to being as realistic about this as I can. The dream girl is out there I guess. Just need to here it. 3 of my best friends just got into some serious relationships, so there no help Then block your ex from contacting you. Seriously. Block her facebook, block her email, her phone number(s), block them all. If she shows up on your doorstep uninvited, call the police and get a restraining order. Never speak to her again. As I said, in about a week, you'll start to feel better. BTW, I wouldn't worry about 3 of your best friends getting into serious relationships. Even if they all get married, the statistics tell us that 2 of them will end up divorced anyway. Relationships end, accept it and move on.
Mixed28 Posted March 20, 2011 Posted March 20, 2011 Short answer: move on. I'm guessing from your moniker and the tone of your post that you're still young. Remember, there will be others after her. Personally I don't think anyone belongs in a serious relationship before they are at least 25 anyway, because this sort of thing happens. Just go "no contact" with her, and never speak to her again. It will start to get easier in about a week or so. BTW, "turning up at every hour" and "spending every second together" isn't always healthy or even attractive to the other person. Next time have a bit of self-respect and a few interests of your own. I kind of agree on the 25 years old thing but at the same time many college students hope they will find the "one" in college especially at the christian college I go to.
The dot Posted March 20, 2011 Posted March 20, 2011 I kind of agree on the 25 years old thing but at the same time many college students hope they will find the "one" in college especially at the christian college I go to. Yes, they hope they find the one, but they rarely do. If you don't believe me, look up the divorce rates of people who get married in their early 20s. Sure, it *can* work, just as people who jump off a tall building *can* survive. It sometimes works, but it usually doesn't. It's okay to roll the dice, but you need to be prepared to lose if the odds are against you.
Mixed28 Posted March 20, 2011 Posted March 20, 2011 Yes, they hope they find the one, but they rarely do. If you don't believe me, look up the divorce rates of people who get married in their early 20s. Sure, it *can* work, just as people who jump off a tall building *can* survive. It sometimes works, but it usually doesn't. It's okay to roll the dice, but you need to be prepared to lose if the odds are against you. I wasn't disagreeing with you at all. Divorce is 52% I remeber someone saying its like playing russian roulete with have the chamber full. Also most of my frids parents met after college not in. I am just saying most people in college including me want someone special. After college I feel it will be harder to find someone. You don't want to get involved with someone at work unless it was a crap job like McDonalds.
The dot Posted March 20, 2011 Posted March 20, 2011 I wasn't disagreeing with you at all. Divorce is 52% Yeah, divorce for *everyone* is 52%, but divorce for younger people specifically is much higher. The rate decreases as you get older, probably because people start to realise the one they're with today may be their last chance, so they try harder to make it work. I think divorce for people who get married under 21 is about 80%.
Mixed28 Posted March 20, 2011 Posted March 20, 2011 Yeah, divorce for *everyone* is 52%, but divorce for younger people specifically is much higher. The rate decreases as you get older, probably because people start to realise the one they're with today may be their last chance, so they try harder to make it work. I think divorce for people who get married under 21 is about 80%. LOL I am not getting married before 21 hell probably no earlier than 25. If I do I will lose my health insurance which is kind of a big deal. But yeah no point getting married that early. Alot of married couples on my campus granted I go to a christian school the whole sex thing to some is a big deal (not me) they get married to have "guilt free" sex.
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