brainygirl Posted March 20, 2011 Posted March 20, 2011 Ok, here's the story. Six years ago I married my high school sweetie. We'd had a child in high school, gone our separate ways and decided to attempt to make a real family. Durning the marriage we had another child. The marriage effectively lasted less than a year. I (foolishly) agreed to following him on his job as a contractor around the country. We moved five times in 10 months. In that time I became more and more unhappy, we lived in hotels or cheap rentals. I wasn't allowed to work because daycare was too expensive. But he always complained about money. I caught him doing things like shoplifting and he started threatening me with physical violence if I didn't go along with what he wanted. He was eventually arrested for steal license tags. While he was in jail, I packed two bags, grabbed the kids, and took a bus home. That was almost five years ago. I've never filed a formal divorce. He eventually moved back to the same state I live in. He pays minimal child support (sorta, I got a $17 check in december) and he keeps the kids every other weekend. The state we live in allows you to down load paperwork, fill it in, and file it without a lawyer. I've downloaded the papers and filled them out as best I can, but some things confuse me. Plus, he doesn't pay the $140 he's supposed to pay me now, so is it even worth my time and trouble to file for more? What should I do? Get a lawyer, or go it alone. I don't want anything from him but to not be legally married anymore.
C.J. Posted March 20, 2011 Posted March 20, 2011 First I would like to say that I think you did the right thing by leaving this relationship.... good for you second, you're best bet is to contact a lawyer or to contact someone who is familar with the legal system in your state. If you're worried about the cost of a lawyer you can most likely get answers with a free consulation. You can also contact your local health department or Social work office for other contacts. I wouldn't just let this go, being a single mom you need to get all of the money (that is legally yours) that you can get. Good luck with everything <3
Author brainygirl Posted March 20, 2011 Author Posted March 20, 2011 First I would like to say that I think you did the right thing by leaving this relationship.... good for you second, you're best bet is to contact a lawyer or to contact someone who is familar with the legal system in your state. If you're worried about the cost of a lawyer you can most likely get answers with a free consulation. You can also contact your local health department or Social work office for other contacts. I wouldn't just let this go, being a single mom you need to get all of the money (that is legally yours) that you can get. Good luck with everything <3 Thanks, sometimes I feel like I left my last chance to have a relationship. I'm a single mom with three kids, can't get beyond "hey, wanna screw" with men.
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