WikipediaFan Posted March 20, 2011 Posted March 20, 2011 It's getting to the point where we're both flirting and sometimes talk on the cam for 1-2 hours. Nothing has nothing but I'm thinking about her and she is attractive. She has invited me to a club for next week but what concerns me is that she told me not to said a word to my GF at all. I already feel like a liar and don't have any intentions of cheating nor betraying my GF in any way. I'm thining of cancelling this invitation but then she'll be upset I didn't come. Or should I just tell my GF how her friend has been acting towards me and about the ''not telling her about the invitation'' part?
Author WikipediaFan Posted March 20, 2011 Author Posted March 20, 2011 (edited) How do I stop thinking about her? I don't want to end up doing something I regret and hurt my GF nor make her cry. Edited March 20, 2011 by WikipediaFan
Author WikipediaFan Posted March 20, 2011 Author Posted March 20, 2011 Wish there was a way I can get her out of my mind.
Macaw Posted March 20, 2011 Posted March 20, 2011 Seems to me like you love your girlfriend but something is missing on your love life and you feel compelled to search for that missing piece elsewhere. If upsetting that girl's friend is really the only thing that you are worried about, then do tell me how can you eventually blow off her advances without upsetting her? We can't control who our brain chooses to feel attracted to. But we can control everything else, from innocent talking to flirting to cheating. If you truly want to be with your girlfriend, you'll have to learn to upset and shot down any other girls that make their moves on you. Best of luck.
Author WikipediaFan Posted March 20, 2011 Author Posted March 20, 2011 Ok so if I cancel the invitation should I tell my GF about her friend? I don't like being dishonest and can't picture seeing myself cheating.
SmileFace Posted March 20, 2011 Posted March 20, 2011 Yes, please tell her - so she can find some new friends... BBM WTF face
Author WikipediaFan Posted March 20, 2011 Author Posted March 20, 2011 Yes, please tell her - so she can find some new friends... BBM WTF faceWill do it now within an hour. By the way what does BBM means? I'm not going to her invitation. I don't care how attractive she is. There is no way I'm going to hurt my girl like that. This flirting is getting too far and I just noticed 2 missing calls from her. I didn't felt like answering.
SmileFace Posted March 20, 2011 Posted March 20, 2011 Will do it now within an hour. By the way what does BBM means? I'm not going to her invitation. I don't care how attractive she is. There is no way I'm going to hurt my girl like that. This flirting is getting too far and I just noticed 2 missing calls from her. I didn't felt like answering. BBM stands for black berry mobile - ignore it Please ignore her - I personally think it is gone too far already. Please tell her asap
Author WikipediaFan Posted March 20, 2011 Author Posted March 20, 2011 Wow I see a lot of cheating going on here that I'm shocked at how little people valued their relationships nowadays. I was taught from an early how to be a gentleman and all the basic rules and so don't want to end up becoming a pathetic loser. I love my GF that I wouldn't change her for anyone. What was I thinking!!!
Bryanp Posted March 20, 2011 Posted March 20, 2011 You sound like a really upstanding guy. Imagine how you would have felt if the roles had been reversed and your girlfriend was flirting with your best friend behind your back?
Author WikipediaFan Posted March 21, 2011 Author Posted March 21, 2011 (edited) Bryanp if this were happening, he wouldn't be my friend anymore and there would probably be a big argument. I wouldn't stand guys touching, talking nor looking at my GF in an inappropriate manner. Now the good news is I declined the invitation and end up telling my GF everything. However, her friend is pissed off and blamed me for ruining their friendship and that I didn't have to snitch on her. Unbelievable!! She called me a snitch. Edited March 21, 2011 by WikipediaFan
Dust Posted March 21, 2011 Posted March 21, 2011 You’ve already betrayed your gf through your actions. When you told your gf about the situation did you explain everything? (like talking for hours with her friend, and liking her etc.) You were put in a tough situation and to a degree you failed, but in the end it sounds like you tried. Don’t beat yourself up, it always works out in one way or the other.
Author WikipediaFan Posted March 21, 2011 Author Posted March 21, 2011 You’ve already betrayed your gf through your actions.How if I never cheated on her? I stopped myself before it even got to that point. When you told your gf about the situation did you explain everything? (like talking for hours with her friend, and liking her etc.)I told her everything and at first she was a bit mad that I didn't told her about the invitation right that day. She said that as long as I didn't kiss her nor did anything besides flirting, she will let this one go but not to keep secrets again.
Dust Posted March 21, 2011 Posted March 21, 2011 This is from Wikipedia. Thought you would be a fan of this definition. Betrayal is the breaking or violation of a presumptive contract, trust, or confidence that produces moral and psychological conflict within a relationship amongst individuals. Isn’t this exactly what you’ve done? I mean it’s great that she forgave you, but you’re already in denial about what you were forgiven for.
Author WikipediaFan Posted March 21, 2011 Author Posted March 21, 2011 This is from Wikipedia. Thought you would be a fan of this definition.It depends on what I'm searching on that encyclopedia. I don't read every single articles but nevertheless I'm still a fan of it. I love that site and honestly that would be my solution if I were ever depressed. Betrayal is the breaking or violation of a presumptive contract, trust, or confidence that produces moral and psychological conflict within a relationship amongst individuals. I remembered this now but thanks for reminding me. Isn’t this exactly what you’ve done? I mean it’s great that she forgave you, but you’re already in denial about what you were forgiven for.Yeah I'm surprised she let it go quickly that day and then it wasn't me who she was mad at anymore but her friend, knowing she is a real tough girl that wouldn't tolerate lies, cheating nor secrets.
whichwayisup Posted March 21, 2011 Posted March 21, 2011 It's getting to the point where we're both flirting and sometimes talk on the cam for 1-2 hours. Nothing has nothing but I'm thinking about her and she is attractive. She has invited me to a club for next week but what concerns me is that she told me not to said a word to my GF at all. I already feel like a liar and don't have any intentions of cheating nor betraying my GF in any way. I'm thining of cancelling this invitation but then she'll be upset I didn't come. Or should I just tell my GF how her friend has been acting towards me and about the ''not telling her about the invitation'' part?[/QUOTE] Uhmm, considering you are WELCOMING the friends behaviour, flirting on webcam and you now think of her in a certain light... NO. Don't tell your gf because it's a lie. You are just as responsible for this as the friend is. You both are doing something behind her back and know it's wrong. Think about breaking up with your girlfriend. Your heart isn't into her anymore, you're doing things that are close to cheating and already planning on minimizing and lying to her. Your relationship with her is over, it's time to admit this.. Look at you're treating your own girlfriend!
whichwayisup Posted March 21, 2011 Posted March 21, 2011 Wow I see a lot of cheating going on here that I'm shocked at how little people valued their relationships nowadays. I was taught from an early how to be a gentleman and all the basic rules and so don't want to end up becoming a pathetic loser. I love my GF that I wouldn't change her for anyone. What was I thinking!!! Exactly, what you were thinking by flirting on webcam with your gf's friend. ? You better tell your gf the truth because if her friend is bitchy or malcious, she WILL tell her first. And, she'll spin it so you will be the bad guy only. Also better hope she didn't record what you two did and said on webcam.
whichwayisup Posted March 21, 2011 Posted March 21, 2011 Bryanp if this were happening, he wouldn't be my friend anymore and there would probably be a big argument. I wouldn't stand guys touching, talking nor looking at my GF in an inappropriate manner. Now the good news is I declined the invitation and end up telling my GF everything. However, her friend is pissed off and blamed me for ruining their friendship and that I didn't have to snitch on her. Unbelievable!! She called me a snitch. Okay I see you told your gf. you're very lucky she forgave you so quickly and decided to stay with you. All you can do now is put your gf first and treat her well with love and kindess. Be blessed she didn't break up with you.
purplepanda Posted March 21, 2011 Posted March 21, 2011 If you tell your girlfriend, wouldn't you have to say you were talking to her... for hours? O.o That'd be a sticky situation. Her friend is not a good person to be attracted to, it seems, if she's going to betray her friend like that. I, too, think you're just missing a little something in your relationship, even though you love your girlfriend. Just forget about her friend, plan a trip with your girl, do something spontaneous-- we girls love that!
Author WikipediaFan Posted March 21, 2011 Author Posted March 21, 2011 To everyone else not following the update: I already told my GF the whole complete truth, even the part about us flirting and talkings on cam (BTW there was no sex talk, only she once asked why I chose my GF).
Author WikipediaFan Posted March 21, 2011 Author Posted March 21, 2011 So if you do have NO intentions of cheating, you'll decline the invitation. You might ask, "why can't I say anything to my gf?" I'd love to hear her explanation of that one.I did asked her why that day and her response was that she doesn't have to know every single detail and that she's not into parties nor clubs, that she will get bored easily. BTW I declined the invitation.
Author WikipediaFan Posted March 21, 2011 Author Posted March 21, 2011 what would you think about a buddy of yours inviting your girlfriend to a meat market without you?I would get very pissed and my buddy would be out of my life.
Author WikipediaFan Posted March 21, 2011 Author Posted March 21, 2011 so what was your gf's reaction? because its obvious this friend, as evidenced by her response and disrespect above, is no friend of your gf. hopefully your gf tells her to take a flying leap and kiss her own ass.They're no longer friends and her friend blames this on me. She was angry saying I didn't have to tell my GF and that I ruined their friendship.
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