fishtaco Posted May 9, 2011 Posted May 9, 2011 I'm a woman and I like men too especially when they're naked and making me pasta. Watch out for the secret ingredient in the Alfredo sauce.
salty goodness Posted May 9, 2011 Posted May 9, 2011 Watch out for the secret ingredient in the Alfredo sauce. Mmmmm Alfredo sauce!
fishtaco Posted May 9, 2011 Posted May 9, 2011 Mmmmm Alfredo sauce! Perhaps there's a joke in there somewhere that involves your user name.
quietGuy13 Posted May 10, 2011 Posted May 10, 2011 I see more women holding hands and hugging eachother than holding hands with men. Just saying... ,,,,
Johnny85 Posted May 10, 2011 Posted May 10, 2011 (edited) I did not read the entire thread, but my opinion on why the divorce rate is higher today than it was 50 years ago can be explained by looking three major changes. First of all, women are far more independent today than they were only 50 years ago. Gender roles have changed a lot over the last few decades and women are more financially independent because of it. In the past, is was difficult for a woman to divorce her husband because she did not have the same opportunity to establish a career and consequently build a financial safety net. That is no longer an issue in Western countries. Secondly, divorce is no longer frowned upon as it was 50 years ago. Why? I believe religious norms and rules play a less important role in the "modern family" than they did 50-60 years ago. Divorce was simply not an option for many couples back then. Finally, technology has progressed significantly over the past few decades. Men and women have more options to meet someone new (which is also an additional temptation). In addition, we are no longer confined to the same area as we grew up in, which has led to new styles of dating (e.g., long distance relationships). We also live in a globalized society today where men and women regularly move to foreign countries because of their work. This means that new relationships form! Great? For some I am sure! But this also leads to different cultures clashing, something that was a non-issue in the past. Globalization also separates many families due to job obligations in foreign countries. Edited May 10, 2011 by Johnny85 z
LeaningIntoTheMuse Posted May 10, 2011 Posted May 10, 2011 I personally see more and more people subscribing to the "love is easy and free" mentality. This is completely incorrect. Love isn't easy and free, and you don't bail just because there are bumps in the road. I think men expect a supermodel, and women expect Prince Charming. Neither of these exist, of course. Women are imperfect, and so are men. Nobody is going to check every single item on your list, and he/she shouldn't have to. That being said, I find that more men are willing to put up with an imperfect relationship if the girl is hot. A guy doesn't have the same options.
Author Woggle Posted May 10, 2011 Author Posted May 10, 2011 My personal opinion is that everyone is too damned selfish. Nobody wants to work hard at a relationship, and nobody wants to make sacrifices. And honestly, I think the fact that so few people adhere to old-school morals and beliefs is also a problem. I don't dislike men in general. I dislike how most men treat me and other women. I also dislike how a lot of women treat their husbands or boyfriends. There are too many liars, cheaters, abusers, golddiggers, etc. on both sides. This I agree with. Maybe I should count my lucky stars that my wife and I are so lucky instead of letting the state of things get me down but it's hard not to worry that eventually it will creep into my marriage.
threebyfate Posted May 10, 2011 Posted May 10, 2011 My personal opinion is that everyone is too damned selfish. Nobody wants to work hard at a relationship, and nobody wants to make sacrifices.Sacrifices don't belong in relationships. You're both in it because you want to be, instead of have to be. If people are sacrificing anything, it's because they perceive themselves with that horrid martyr attitude. Same goes for parents who "sacrifice" for their children. They wanted their children. Children don't ask to be born. So anything isn't a sacrifice, it should be viewed as a labour of love. And honestly, I think the fact that so few people adhere to old-school morals and beliefs is also a problem.Don't agree that this is necessary either. Old school for marriage means, put up with everything and anything, including cheating and abuse. Staying in the marriage is more important than being happy. I don't dislike men in general. I dislike how most men treat me and other women. I also dislike how a lot of women treat their husbands or boyfriends. Why do people remain in bad marriages or relationships? After the first crappy treatment, you assert reasonable boundaries of behaviour. If people don't listen, it's time to move on. No one is chained to anyone else. There are too many liars, cheaters, abusers, golddiggers, etc. on both sides.Sure. But there's no reason to stay in a crappy relationship. People use love as the excuse to tolerate a whole lotta' crappy behaviour. I question if this is love or just a form of codependency.
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