Getting her back?

[lando28]

Never mind. close thread please

Edited March 20, 2011 by lando28

[Frank13]

Let me be frank here. The stuff she is giving you about not wanting to be in a relationship because of how her ex treated her is bulls$@t. You are not someone new who she is just afraid to take a chance with. She knows you so the BS about the ex should have nothing to do with you.

 

The fact of the matter is that she is just not that into you and is using the stuff about the ex to try to let her down easy. She has made it clear she wants her space and you end up in a place right near hers. Sure that could be due to the circumstances you stated, but then you push her by telling her you want to spend more time with her. Now she is thinking the reasons you gave for moving close by aren't true.

 

My advice would be to start NC immediately. Don't tell her you are doing it (as that let's her have the power of knowing what is going on) just do it. Let her wonder and worry what is going on. She wants her space so give it to her. You need to disappear. Only if she has a chance to miss you will she be able to know if she wants you back. Right now she has the comfort of knowing you are waiting for her if she ever wants you. Let her know she is about to lose you forever.

 

Be warned, she may not come back especially if she has already decided she doesn't want you anymore, but the NC is more for you to heal and get over her because at this point she had made it clear she doesn't want a relationship with you. Her coming back would be a bonus.

 

Oh, and if you go no contact, don't reply to any crumbs she will throw your way. Ignore everything unless she says she wants you back. If she does, she will beat your door down to get back together. If she doesn't you will be on the road to healing and getting over her and by then may not even want her back. If in doubt, the best rule is that you can never do too much NC. You can do a search and find how terribly things go when people break NC.