ericm Posted March 19, 2011 Posted March 19, 2011 (edited) I met this girl & we started talking & seemed to get along very well. She told me that she had been in a long relationship, was hurt very bad & really struggled recovering (depression) from it but was glad it was over & ready to move on We went out on a date, both of us seemed a little nervous at the beginning but after the initial awkwardness there seemed to be a connection. She seemed to let her guard down & her body language led me to believe she was interested in me. Towards the end of the date she started to act like something was bothering her but I still thought overall it went well. We ended w/ both agreeing that we would like to go out again. I called her the next day to talk, she said she was going to her family’s house & couldn’t talk. We chatted briefly & I didn’t get the impression that anything was wrong. I went out of town for a few days & tried to get ahold of her when I got back, she didn’t return message until next day. The next day she sent me a text message, she told me she had a couple bad days, I asked her if she going to be around later to talk, she said no but tomorrow, next day I tried & she said she was tired & going to sleep. At this point I came to the conclusion that I was wasting my time & she wasn’t interested so I gave up trying The next week I thought maybe I shouldn’t give up so I sent her a text, we exchanged msgs, she said she was not feeling well (didn’t directly come out and say it but depressed). I sent her text a few days later saying I hope she was feeling better, she said she still was having rough time but thanks, I responded w/ sorry to hear that & hope you start feeling better. That was the last contact we had I have pretty much given up on idea this turning into a relationship, but still wonder if I should give(n) up? I understand that when so people become depressed they withdraw, so that makes me think I shouldn’t give up. But if I were to pursue it more what else could I do, I reached out several times? (sorry it is so long) Edited March 19, 2011 by ericm
fortyninethousand322 Posted March 19, 2011 Posted March 19, 2011 Well, if someone repeatedly puts roadblocks in the way of getting to know them better then it's usually a good idea to walk away. It's really not worth the time and the energy to get involved with someone who's not going to be a full participant in any possible relationship. You did the right thing. Don't worry about it anymore.
Author ericm Posted March 20, 2011 Author Posted March 20, 2011 (edited) Thanks, I’ve pretty much come to that conclusion. I was just second guessing my decision because: - I think she was interested but depression and/or fear has caused her to withdraw &, I really dont know enough about depression to know what if anything I could do or say -I really don’t want her to think I’ve “abandoned” her when she is having hard time Edited March 20, 2011 by ericm
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