passions Posted March 19, 2011 Share Posted March 19, 2011 (edited) Got to know a guy on the net, didn't take long for us to meet up. We're in our early, mid 20s. Liked a lot. We went on a first date, second, third... and things were (a bit too) intense. we met up once a week for 7 weeks, spent 20 + hours together after the first coupla dates. But didnt have sex.. he told me he didnt like it that I turned things so heated and didnt go all the way.. but there were reasons, and i wasnt ready. it was a bit dramatic cos i could tell there was a major difference in his behaviour between first and 2nd date, i thought he wasnt into me cos he was so sadlooking distressed and scatterbrained. later told me he was cutting down on antidepressants and that someone in his family had just been diagnosed with disease and that he didnt want it affecting US. Spent almost all the time at his place, cooking, watching movies, going for walks etc. talking about feelings. it was cosy and nice and intimate, and it was all his ideas. i was invited in for valentines, he gave me a big rose and cooked for us and all that. we both agreed that seeing eachother made both of us just jump with joy. he talked about me to his friends and family, he was very caring. I was worried however cos we didnt talk a great deal, busy enjoying eachothers physical company there was not much focus on talking.. and we didnt talk between our meetings. i was starting to feel he may not be interested in me.. like maybe he just wanted me for something else. So I had to ask, and he was offended. And he told me not to make this communication issue a bigger "problem" than it was - I agreed. That we shouldn't worry about it. Then on the 7th date, late in the eve after hours together he tells me that.. He doesnt want one of us to get too attached, that he wants to keep his options open cos his idea of a relationship was more passionate, that he doesnt know what he's done to make me think he was serious about me..that he thought i was on the same page. that he likes me a lot, isn't that enough? and so on. I .. just dunno what I have missed? Not serious? what?? I asked him if it was cos we were'nt having sex yet, but he said no noo. Was it wrong of me to tell him he had acted really terrible and not to contact me anymore? It felt like the right thing to do! Edited March 19, 2011 by passions Link to post Share on other sites
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