lukep Posted March 19, 2011 Posted March 19, 2011 I have known this girl for five years and we were really close friends, I have always had feelings for her but I was too shy to confess these feelings and since she has a boyfriend I didnt want to rock the boat. We have fooled around in the past but nothing serious and this only ever happened when we was drunk. About a year ago I told her how I felt, but I did it over email rather than face to face and she didnt take it very well, she said she was happy with her boyfriend and saw me only as a friend. I accepted her decision and dropped the subject entirely but for the next six months things were very awkward between us and we didnt have much contact. About four months ago I heard through mutual friends that she likes me and has feelings for me. Her best friend told me that she loves me so I thought I would try to start again with her as friends and see where it goes. I hinted to her that I still liked her and she made the effort to come out with my group of friends for my birthday and things looked like they was getting back on track between us as friends. Three weeks ago I made a bit of a mistake, I sent her a text saying we need to talk and sort out what is going on between us and she denied she knew what I was talking about. Looking back I should have just asked her out for a drink and then asked her but I kind of jumped the gun and now she is acting like she hates me. She has been bad mouthing me all over town, telling her friends that I am a loser. Every facebook status she has are subtle ways of bad mouthing me and even her friends think I am an idiot. All I did wrong was manned up and said we need to talk. They say there is a thin line between love and hate and if she really hated me why spend three weeks badmouthing me? I havent reacted to the bad mouthing in any way, I have had no contact with her and havent mentioned her to anyone. I figured if I react it will make things worse and if I ignore it it will blow over. I know this all sounds very childish, she is 25 and I am 27 so I'm getting a little tired of these silly games. I could easily cut her out of my life and never talk to her again but I really do care about her, she knows this so I dont understand why she is acting childish. I realise if I had manned up sooner none of this would have happened but I cant do anything about that now and I did say we need to properly talk and that was what set her off into crazy child mode. Any thought on what I should now would be greatly appreciated, thanks.
Kelvin Posted March 19, 2011 Posted March 19, 2011 She's acting like she's 15, not 25. Srsly, doesn't she have a job and other things to do with her time? Keep not talking to her. There are many other girls out there. Maybe in a year or two, she'll own up to how badly she acted. And then you can have a real talk.
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