chop246 Posted March 19, 2011 Posted March 19, 2011 (edited) Back story http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t268524/ For some unknown reason she kept calling me to help me move.Then I agreed to take her cat.She came over we talked for a few hours.Then I drove her home.The next day she called me 3 times.Then the day after nothing.Then the next day she texted me then called me and said she missed her cat and wanted to come over Saturday.This was on St Patty's day.I texted her that I missed her a little.No response.She told me she was going out drinking that night.It's now Saturday and she has not called or texted.Last St patty's day was the day we stopped talking for 6 months,she went out with some turkish guy to make her BF jealous.Of course this guy has money and is intelligent(which she likes).She still communicates with this guy.I asked her why he couldn't sponsor her.She said he is sponsoring someone else.He knows she's married.He gives her advice.I secretly think she wants to be with him,but why do I care.This whole situation is making me seriously depressed.I just feel like giving up... Edited March 19, 2011 by chop246 Title
Kindaconfused_77 Posted March 19, 2011 Posted March 19, 2011 Dude, do not waste another single moment on her. Cut her loose, she is using you. There is someone out there that is RIGHT for you, and the longer you keep pandering to this woman's whims the longer it is going to take for you to get over it. Cut all contact and never look back, it will be misery at first but in the long run you will be better off, you are worth much better and you know it.
ConflictedGuy27 Posted March 19, 2011 Posted March 19, 2011 OP, please understand that you're not in uncharted territory. your situation marks neither the first nor last time a man will go through what you are. nearly everyone that chooses to stick it out makes it through to the other side -- more often than not, smarter and more experienced then they were before. that said, let me make a suggestion - a powerful one IMO. go out by yourself & do the things you enjoy doing. you can do that stuff alone or with friends. do those things long enough and you'll likely come to realize that romantic relationships aren't the only thing worthwhile in this world... once you discover and truly internalize that point of view, new romantic interests will naturally present themselves when you're not even looking. just be sure you're eating, getting enough sleep, working out and doing what you like and you'll bounce back (and better than you were before) in no time. good luck.
Author chop246 Posted March 20, 2011 Author Posted March 20, 2011 (edited) I understand what you guys are saying.I just don't feel like doing anything,except be with her.I know she is bad for me.I just love her.I don't understand how I can go from being someone she calls and depends on to an occaisonal phone call.I used to get a good morning or how are u? everyday.Now I'm lucky if she responds.I heard she may be back with her BF/Husband.If that's the case I'm happy for her.Since she moved from her old apt(her BF/Husbands best friend would spy on her,he was her neighbor..and would report to her BF.)into her new one she never asks me over.She says she is happy no one spies on her.She used to call me over at 10pm everynight we would go drink or talk,because she was lonely.We would have the best time.I would get the occaisonal head on the shoulder(that was it)it made me feel like she cared.now it's nothing.Yesterday she finally called me after 2 days of not responding to my texts.She wants to come see her cat.I said hey what's up.She yells at me for saying what's up? I don't get that..what am I supposed to say to someone that's supposed to be a friend..Hey baby? I don't get her.. Edited March 20, 2011 by chop246 spelling/details
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