No_hope Posted March 19, 2011 Posted March 19, 2011 I also posted this on a different form, but no one was responding... I am a little desperate for advice, should I send it? Would you change anything? alright I was with my ex for 2 years, 6 weeks before our wedding he broke up me with for someone else. Found out he had been cheating on me with her for 2 months. Anyways I un friended him from facebook and he called me and told me to re add him so we can keep in contact about our child (don't know why he did that) so I re-added him. well the other woman after 2 1/2 months moved two states away and he is all depressed about it, saying how "life has turned on him" and he is saying how she will always have a piece of his heart, and she took his soul with her two states away, how he wont ever meet anyone else, and wont get together with anyone "specially my babys momma" and saying how much he loves her and how much he misses her and blah blah blah -saying all this sweet crap. And every time I see this, it sets me back. anyways I am going to un friend him again, but I am moving an hour away with our child, and I don't think he knows... he wont talk to me but I am sure family have told him. So I was thinking about sending this no contact message (I am on day 11 of full blown no contact) "Hi _____ I am un friending you from facebook, not because I hate you, but because when ever I see your posts I get set back. I know you love someone else and I have accepted that. I will re-add you when I feel strong enough to see your posts. In a few days you will not be able to get a hold of me by my house phone, but when you are ready too see our son, just give me a text or call my cell phone. I can drop him off at your grandmothers before you visit him, that way we will avoid the awkward run in. Also I am sorry to say, I can't be your friend, but we should still be polite and civil to one another. " is this okay? It doesn't sound desperate or clingy. Not too much info. But I don't know.. I thought I would send it out your you LSers before sending it to him.
Thatguyintx Posted March 19, 2011 Posted March 19, 2011 What is your motivation to sending the letter? If your motivation is to let him know you are moving, limit the letter to that. Don't mention Facebook or how you feel about him. Why would you ever need to re-friend him on Facebook later on? He can call you or text you regarding your kiddo. Facebook has no redeeming value to help you co-parent. Just my thought.
poorguy Posted March 19, 2011 Posted March 19, 2011 I am 100% against informing anyone of your intention to go into NC. It's your decision to make for you and has nothing to do with them. So NO don't send him that message. The only hitch to your situation is the child. Unless it's something about the child then NC 100%, 100% of the time
Fern Posted March 22, 2011 Posted March 22, 2011 He sounds like an insensitive tool who doesn't deserve any courtesy! Is he deliberately trying to hurt you? Dear god. Delete and block him on FB and keep contact to the barest minimum aand only about your son. He deserves no explanations darling. What an *********.
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