Confused02 Posted March 19, 2011 Posted March 19, 2011 Ok first of all I am 21, well i went on like 5 or 6 dates with a 18 year old girl i didnt think it was going that bad she was texting me everyday and whatnot so i thought she was pretty interested. Well the last time she was with me we were at my house and it started with kissing and we almost had sex. I stopped myself because i wasnt sure if she was ready, before i started I told her "all you have to do is stop me if your uncomfortable" well i really dont think she was going to . Well i was getting the vibe to stop anyways i didnt want to rush things thats pretty much what i told her. Well three days past by and she didnt text me but when i texted her she would text right back. So finally today i asked her what was goin on in a polite way i asked her if it had anything to do with that night and she said no. She said i was a nice guy but the age difference was a big thing. Whatever, guess i should of hit it and quit it screw being nice i am getting the idea it doesnt get you anywhere.
Author Confused02 Posted March 19, 2011 Author Posted March 19, 2011 Damn.........this girl was pretty hot too. Woman wonder why men are womanizing *******s. Here's your answer
Mrlonelyone Posted March 19, 2011 Posted March 19, 2011 Suppose you hit it and ended up with a baby. It can happen...It only takes one motivated mariene.
Ginger Beer Posted March 19, 2011 Posted March 19, 2011 LOL...age difference a big thing? Yeah sure, because 21 is soooo much older than 18. WEAK! You should have nailed that b*tch when you had the chance. As a man, thats all you can do with broads because they are not RATIONAL creatures. They may like you one minute, and lose interest the next. Why? They are ruled by IRRATIONAL EMOTION and NOT LOGIC. Its as simple as that. BANG THEM WHEN YOU CAN, dont bother trying to understand them. There is NOTHING to understand. They DONT HAVE A PATTERN OF THINKING which is why trying to analyze them is a WASTE OF TIME. This girl is out banging guys MUCH OLDER than 21 buddy. But do not fret, lesson learned and there will be other chances. Terrible advice.
Author Confused02 Posted March 19, 2011 Author Posted March 19, 2011 So i guess i should just let this be........i asked her if it had anything to do with what i did or didnt do that night and she said no. I am still wondering why she called it off though it bothers me. She didnt really stop ignoring me until after that night that is what has me confused. Do you think i should send her a facebook message or try chatting with her a little or just leave this one alone completely?
blackmagik Posted March 19, 2011 Posted March 19, 2011 My question to you is why did you stop? You told her to tell you if you were going to far and she never did, therefore she wanted it. Yet you stopped? I have come to the conclusion that women want sex just as much as men do yet they socially arent suppose to want it as much. WIth this they don't go out of their way to initiate the act when with someone they actually want to sleep with. I think your lack of moving forward ruined it for you here.
mr.dream merchant Posted March 19, 2011 Posted March 19, 2011 Sorry to hear that OP, but it seems the young lady was just looking for some action. She probably feels you're TOO nice as in, not exciting enough. This may or may not be the case, as none of us on this board know you personally. Advice- Leave it alone for now. Mindripper had it right really, move on to other women. She may or may not come chasing after you but that's not really what you want to focus on but instead moving yourself forward, and detaching from this lady. She already stated she isn't interested with a cop out reason, so the more you chase it the further away she's going to go. Don't stress over it too much, we've all been there bro. Chalk it up to experience, keep your head up and keep truckin'. Women come and go, remember that.
Author Confused02 Posted March 20, 2011 Author Posted March 20, 2011 Well is this a bad idea? I could send her a message on facebook or IM her next time she is on there with something like this I could send it in a week or so............................ This is the last time I will bother you but I would just like to talk about some stuff that's on my mind. First of all your very quiet so it was pretty hard to read you at times all you had to do was tell me what was bothering you or you didn't like, I will listen I just could not tell. I honestly don't know if this is what made you lose interest or not but I have a feeling it is since after that night you stopped texting me first and I understand but let me explain a little. The other night when we were in my room and I decided to stop the only reason I stopped period is because I didn't think you were comfortable and I didn't want to disrespect you. I know you said that wasn't it but I wouldn't expect a honest answer about that anyways it's a touchy subject. I don't know if it made you self consious or insulted but it's been on my mind. It could be a dozen other things that bothered you I really don't know you never told me or gave me a hint. I know you said I was a nice guy or whatever but I am guessing that means boring. I never really had that much time to open up to you I wasn't really myself a bunch of the time take my word on that. I really didn't want to send this message it sounds needy but the truth is I don't need anybody but I like you (girls name) your beautiful. Monday and Tuesday night I dont have anything going on if you would like to go get something to eat and go to the mall or bowling one night. It doesnt have to be considered a date or anything just give me a chance and talk to me if something comes of it great but if not we are still friends. Just let me know.
mizliz Posted March 20, 2011 Posted March 20, 2011 Ok first of all I am 21, well i went on like 5 or 6 dates with a 18 year old girl i didnt think it was going that bad she was texting me everyday and whatnot so i thought she was pretty interested. Well the last time she was with me we were at my house and it started with kissing and we almost had sex. I stopped myself because i wasnt sure if she was ready, before i started I told her "all you have to do is stop me if your uncomfortable" well i really dont think she was going to . Well i was getting the vibe to stop anyways i didnt want to rush things thats pretty much what i told her. Well three days past by and she didnt text me but when i texted her she would text right back. So finally today i asked her what was goin on in a polite way i asked her if it had anything to do with that night and she said no. She said i was a nice guy but the age difference was a big thing. Whatever, guess i should of hit it and quit it screw being nice i am getting the idea it doesnt get you anywhere. Do you like this girl? 18 is very young. Tell her your intentions, and see what she says. If you just wanna f**k her, she is likely picking up on that. Good luck!
walktheline Posted March 20, 2011 Posted March 20, 2011 Don't do that, it'll just make you look desperate. I was in a similar situation a couple months back with a girl who just dropped off and stopped returning phone calls and texts after several dates and a good month of nearly daily contact. I went NC and started looking elsewhere. It didn't take long before I found someone else who I've been much happier with and I've totally forgotten bout the last one. So move on and find someone else it'll happen fore you know it.
dreamingoftigers Posted March 20, 2011 Posted March 20, 2011 Don't turn into a womanizing piece of **** because one 18 year old girl doesn't know what the Hell she wants or why! Jeez! And really people turn into *******s when they choose to turn into *******s. You seem decent enough, find someone decent for you and don't go skimming! Good luck and all.
Author Confused02 Posted March 20, 2011 Author Posted March 20, 2011 Do you like this girl? 18 is very young. Tell her your intentions, and see what she says. If you just wanna f**k her, she is likely picking up on that. Good luck! What do you mean by that? confused
mizliz Posted March 20, 2011 Posted March 20, 2011 What do you mean by that? confused If you like her, tell her you like her. Tell her how she makes you feel. If you are honest with her, she will be honest with you. Trust yourself. Advice from an older woman.
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