Mrsandman920 Posted March 19, 2011 Posted March 19, 2011 Right... well, we broke up a few months back, met up at Spring Break because I had still been talking to her, she fell for me again while I was back, but then everything went sour. So on so forth about all that good jazz and what not. Sorry for the informalities, it's just that I feel most of the veterans have already read damn near every story of break ups. Back on topic... I've read the guides on NC, and I'm wondering if it will really work. She texted me not too long ago telling me that she was extremely worried about me and what not. It seemed like she was about to freak out, so I just told her I was good and left it at that. Now, from this point forward, do I avoid all contact? If not, when is it that I should talk to her? I realize it's fairly situational as far as the responses can be, but thank you for any help or insight you can provide. Edit: Right, by the way, I would love to have a second chance with her. But after reading these threads I realize that isn't the point of NC. I'm just really looking to make NC work in my favor as best I can.
joshextreme Posted March 19, 2011 Posted March 19, 2011 Right... well, we broke up a few months back, met up at Spring Break because I had still been talking to her, she fell for me again while I was back, but then everything went sour. So on so forth about all that good jazz and what not. Sorry for the informalities, it's just that I feel most of the veterans have already read damn near every story of break ups. Back on topic... I've read the guides on NC, and I'm wondering if it will really work. She texted me not too long ago telling me that she was extremely worried about me and what not. It seemed like she was about to freak out, so I just told her I was good and left it at that. Now, from this point forward, do I avoid all contact? If not, when is it that I should talk to her? I realize it's fairly situational as far as the responses can be, but thank you for any help or insight you can provide. Edit: Right, by the way, I would love to have a second chance with her. But after reading these threads I realize that isn't the point of NC. I'm just really looking to make NC work in my favor as best I can. From being here I've learned that NC is used more for your ability to get over her. Don't rely on it to bring her back. I've been going NC for 6 days now and Idk if she'll text me or facebook me anytime soon. Time will tell.
mr.goodguy Posted March 19, 2011 Posted March 19, 2011 Josh is right...only time will tell. Work on yourself and if you ever bump into her again, she'll be wowed at how you've changed. Only difference will be whether YOU want her back at that point.
Author Mrsandman920 Posted March 19, 2011 Author Posted March 19, 2011 You raise an excellent point mr. goodguy. I do intend to work on myself in this time, but at the time being I still want her back, and would still like her as a friend at the very least. That being the case, I suppose it is now time to disregard the title; what do you believe is the best route for what I just said? Back to what I was saying, I do intend to work on myself in this time, I've already been contemplating the issues I have with myself, and even now I've come to some pretty quick realizations.
mr.goodguy Posted March 19, 2011 Posted March 19, 2011 OK, so you are saying two things. 1. You want her back as a girlfriend or 2. you'd settle to have her as a friend (just so she remains in your life). A lot of people have said if you get placed in the number 2 column you cannot climb out to 1. I think you need to decide which avenue you want to take. If you want her as JUST a friend, hang out with her...If you want to rekindle a relationship, that is where the finesse really comes in. I'm not an expert on strategies (yet) but if she contacts you again, DO NOT respond right away, give it an hour or hours. Don't be a dick...but give her the impression you are busy with something (hobby, school, party, etc.). If she gives you crumbs, like, "what's going on". Ignore. If she really reaches out, act on that, but not quickly or aggressively. Remember, women are looking for a confident guy who leads. Also never make a girl the center of your world (it looks needy). Work on yourself, always show you are having a great time (even when you aren't) and in time you'll have her and other women chasing you... Hope that helps.
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