Eternal Sunshine Posted March 19, 2011 Posted March 19, 2011 I have just observed something. With my last bf, who was an artist and very chaotic and impulsive, I had this constant free floating anxiety. It's like I could sense that he is unstable although there was no logical evidence of it at the time. He always called when he said he would, he was in contact every day. He did what he said up until the week before break up. Despite surface consistency and signs of high interest level, I really felt like he will one day just completely change his mind. Which is exactly what happened. With the current guy, I have the sense of stability. He also does what he says, calls when says etc. For example, today he didn't respond to my text for 90 minutes about our plans tonight. Normally I would freak out over that. But I felt completely calm and just knew that he would never do such a thing like not respond to my text, or even do complete 180 from asking me to be his gf few days ago to ditching me. I just KNEW. Sure enough, he responded enthusiastically and everything is great. (I may come to eat my own words one day ) Both were just my gut feelings and instinct, not really anything tangible.
SmileFace Posted March 19, 2011 Posted March 19, 2011 You are like a can of pringles "Once you pop, the fun don't stop", so I feel the need to indulge in your carb-e goodness. lol I don't think it is a case of instability of stability with your boyfriends - it is more a change in you. You are learning to not stabilize your feeling around others and it may be showing in your relationships. Hope that make some sense
Author Eternal Sunshine Posted March 19, 2011 Author Posted March 19, 2011 You are like a can of pringles "Once you pop, the fun don't stop", so I feel the need to indulge in your carb-e goodness. lol I don't think it is a case of instability of stability with your boyfriends - it is more a change in you. You are learning to not stabilize your feeling around others and it may be showing in your relationships. Hope that make some sense I am going to take the bolded above as a compliment. But seriously, I do not think it's just me. Their personalities are completely different.
Intricategirl Posted March 19, 2011 Posted March 19, 2011 I don't know you particularly well, but it could be a combination of both- you're changing, so you're picking different men.
SmileFace Posted March 19, 2011 Posted March 19, 2011 (edited) I am going to take the bolded above as a compliment. I was just being cheeky - it was a compliment :-) Edited March 19, 2011 by SmileFace
threebyfate Posted March 19, 2011 Posted March 19, 2011 Their personalities are completely different.Break this down. You'll figure out the reasons why. IMO, gut is your subconscious mind pulling in details that your conscious has ignored or didn't connect.
johan Posted March 19, 2011 Posted March 19, 2011 Both were just my gut feelings and instinct, not really anything tangible. I would dispute this. You just aren't aware of what signals you're receiving that leads to these conclusions of yours. But you are getting real, tangible signals. Maybe you would learn something if you figured out what they are.
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