OliveOyl Posted March 19, 2011 Posted March 19, 2011 Let's say you have been chatting with someone online, and they seem nice, but you haven't met yet. Do you keep the interaction going on regularly and revealing stuff about yourself online, or do you wait until meeting in person? There's been one guy I've been chatting with and we're meeting next week. I've been not asking too many in depth questions though because I would really prefer to discuss such things in person, rather than online. I don't want to end up having nothing to talk about when we do meet. Also I'm nervous about the fact that someone can seem nice online and a quasi-"relationship" even starts to form but that could all be blown out of the water when actually meeting. However, if someone pulls back online, to wait until meeting, would that be construed as a lack of interest?
grecian Posted March 19, 2011 Posted March 19, 2011 I don't think there's anything wrong with not wanting to say too much online. It may end up being a waste of your time if the date doesn't go very well. Just write to the guy that you'd prefer to talk in person and that you're looking forward to meeting him. I don't think he would mind that. I've had cases where i really liked them online and then on the phone or in person they were a disappointment. But, eventually I found the right guy! Good luck!
USCGAviator Posted March 19, 2011 Posted March 19, 2011 When I'm chatting online before the meet I reveal as much as needed. You can always recap the online chat in person so it's not a big deal
Eternal Sunshine Posted March 19, 2011 Posted March 19, 2011 Basically, I used to think that I need to save things to talk about in person. It's actually a silly concept. If you are to start dating someone, you will have to talk to them a whole LOT so saving stuff is not going to cut it. Just do what feels natural. If there is a real connection, there won't be a problem of having to rack your brains for something to talk about in person.
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