joshextreme Posted March 18, 2011 Posted March 18, 2011 So about a week ago my ex's cousin started talking to me out of the blue. She saw my sad fb statuses and we realized we could use eachother by talking to cheer each other up. Shes about 3 years year older than me so there isn't any like connection if you know what I mean. Anyways, her cousin and her are pretty much best friends. But her cousin and I talking has been kept a secret from her. If you know my story you'd know that I've been going NC for almost a week now. My question is what could be the outcome if my ex found out we were talking even though it was 100% friendly talking? I know my ex would probably feel betrayed since this is family going behind her back to talk to me. Could this possibly work for me?
TaraMaiden Posted March 18, 2011 Posted March 18, 2011 So about a week ago my ex's cousin started talking to me out of the blue. She saw my sad fb statuses and we realized we could use eachother by talking to cheer each other up. Shes about 3 years year older than me so there isn't any like connection if you know what I mean. Anyways, her cousin and her are pretty much best friends. But her cousin and I talking has been kept a secret from her. If you know my story you'd know that I've been going NC for almost a week now. My question is what could be the outcome if my ex found out we were talking even though it was 100% friendly talking? I know my ex would probably feel betrayed since this is family going behind her back to talk to me. Not your problem. She 's your ex- and as such, you're no longer responsible to her. If her cousin wants to talk to you, then that's for her to work out with your ex-. They're family. You have no such connection, and as such, no obligation. Could this possibly work for me? In what way? You said; "Shes about 3 years year older than me so there isn't any like connection if you know what I mean. " I'm 5 years older than my partner, so first of all, I don't know where you're coming from with this age difference, and secondly, if you say there isn't any connection - what's to 'work for you'...?
Author joshextreme Posted March 18, 2011 Author Posted March 18, 2011 So about a week ago my ex's cousin started talking to me out of the blue. She saw my sad fb statuses and we realized we could use eachother by talking to cheer each other up. Shes about 3 years year older than me so there isn't any like connection if you know what I mean. Anyways, her cousin and her are pretty much best friends. But her cousin and I talking has been kept a secret from her. If you know my story you'd know that I've been going NC for almost a week now. My question is what could be the outcome if my ex found out we were talking even though it was 100% friendly talking? I know my ex would probably feel betrayed since this is family going behind her back to talk to me. In what way? You said; "Shes about 3 years year older than me so there isn't any like connection if you know what I mean. " I'm 5 years older than my partner, so first of all, I don't know where you're coming from with this age difference, and secondly, if you say there isn't any connection - what's to 'work for you'...? im 16 and her cousin is 19. Legally there is no connection lol I asked if it could work for me. Im pretty sure my ex would be pissed if her own cousin was talking to me and trusting me over her. But maybe it could show my ex what kind of guy i am.
TaraMaiden Posted March 18, 2011 Posted March 18, 2011 You must be in the USA, In that case, because in the UK, there could be, with no law broken. She's being motherly then. But the first part of my post still stands. If your ex- objects, tell her to work it out with her cousin, not you.
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