My ex bf told me ''Most women forgive cheating'' is this true?

[dreamingoftigers]

I realize that this thread is about cheating and not sexual addiction per se, just thought since I was quoted that I would comment in response to the other responses.

[Nikki Sahagin]

I think most women do yes. But not deep down. Men react much harsher to cheating and freeze a woman out forever. Double standard.

[dreamingoftigers]

I think far fewer women would bother to forgive it with a bf who they don't have a child with. There isn't as much invested and that person has made it pretty clear that they aren't marriage material. Why bother staying?

[WikipediaFan]

Not really because if I cheat on my GF, apart from possible making her cry I would lose her forever. I remembered one of our earliest conversations she said it would be over if I ever cheated, even if it was a kiss.

 

I suppose it would depend on what type of woman the loser is with. I'm finding the complete opposite, women are become tougher these days. It's like if we completely ruined it then it's over with no second chances at all but it should be that way.

[aliciawalkers]

I think far fewer women would bother to forgive it with a bf who they don't have a child with. There isn't as much invested and that person has made it pretty clear that they aren't marriage material. Why bother staying?

I wouldn't stay, not even if it was a 10 year-old relationship/marriage with a child involved. It's just the way I feel.

My rule is very simple to a man: you're with me only, not another woman or you can walk out the door.

 

I love myself that I wouldn't let a man get away with it. If I did then this would contradict all my values and morals. If I took back a cheater, that's like I would set others a terrible example and valued myself so little. I don't deserve that type of treatment.

[Woggle]

If they do then they shouldn't. It should be a dealbreaker to anybody and that goes for men, women and whoever else.

[aliciawalkers]

If they do then they shouldn't. It should be a dealbreaker to anybody and that goes for men, women and whoever else.

It has always been a deal-breaker in my book. No second chances and yet I got called too strict.

Too strict would be controlling a man's everyday moves, not letting him visit his friends or family or getting jealous if he has some female friends. I'm neither of that but do demand honesty and integrity. I don't ask too much.

[Woggle]

It has always been a deal-breaker in my book. No second chances and yet I got called too strict.

Too strict would be controlling a man's everyday moves, not letting him visit his friends or family or getting jealous if he has some female friends. I'm neither of that but do demand honesty and integrity. I don't ask too much.

 

No you don't ask too much. I caught my ex cheating and dumped her on the spot and never looked back. As long as you would never cheat yourself and practice what you demand from a man I fully agree with your stance.

[aliciawalkers]

No you don't ask too much. I caught my ex cheating and dumped her on the spot and never looked back. As long as you would never cheat yourself and practice what you demand from a man I fully agree with your stance.

I'm sorry to hear that. You actually caught her in the act?

However, I'm glad to hear you dumped her. I don't see why the need to cheat. If someone has to seek pleasure elsewhere then why not be honest and tell their partners and how it's not working out.

If I was miserable to the point of not loving a man, I either break it off or I suggest counseling, not run into another man's arm.

[Woggle]

She was recently fired from her job and I came home from work early to find her in bed with a man. I never saw a man get dressed and run out of a house so fast in my life. I came to find out that while I was at work she was going and taking a bunch of men home. It's all good though since I am now happily married to an honest and faithful woman and she is in prison for trying to rob a donut shop with her boyfriend.

[aliciawalkers]

She was recently fired from her job and I came home from work early to find her in bed with a man. I never saw a man get dressed and run out of a house so fast in my life. I came to find out that while I was at work she was going and taking a bunch of men home. It's all good though since I am now happily married to an honest and faithful woman and she is in prison for trying to rob a donut shop with her boyfriend.

Amazing how not only is she a lying cheater but also a criminal. If you two have kids then she doesn't even deserves to have custody for them.

[Woggle]

Amazing how not only is she a lying cheater but also a criminal. If you two have kids then she doesn't even deserves to have custody for them.

 

Luckily we have no kids so I can completely wash my hands of her. She also did some time in prison for trying to shoot me when she found out I was getting remarried. God knows what I ever saw in her. That whole debacle caused some trust issues with women I am not only beginning to finally get over.

[aliciawalkers]

Luckily we have no kids so I can completely wash my hands of her. She also did some time in prison for trying to shoot me when she found out I was getting remarried. God knows what I ever saw in her. That whole debacle caused some trust issues with women I am not only beginning to finally get over.

Thanks goodness you woke up on time and saw her true colors.

Once a cheater always a cheater. It applies the same to liars and abusers. They will never change their spots.

[lemonlegs]

My first serious boyfriend cheated on me with his ex-gf. It was interesting because he broke up with me, and I was devastated because there was seemingly no explanation except a lame, "I'm unhappy".

 

Despite him being so "unhappy", he still talked to me all the time, wanted to be intimate with me, and told me he loved me about 4 months after we broke up. When I finally told him that he either has to be with me or not talk to me, and he still denied the relationship, I told him to stop talking to me because I was done with the games. Then after me ignorning his attempts to contact me several times, he decides to say he REALLY has to talk to me (and I genuinely thought he was going to say he wanted to be with me), but no he told me that he cheated on me with his ex the whole time. Which, to be honest, I don't really believe. I believe he slept with her while we did our whole 4-month long in-limbo dating thing, but not throughout our whole relationship. He legitimately was always with me when he was not working. I think he exaggerated it to hurt my feelings because he finally knew I was done with his crap. He wanted to draw the drama on even longer, he's fu cked.

 

ANYWAYS, I told him he was a piece of sh it, and to never talk to me ever again, hung up the phone, and haven't spoke to him in over a year and a half. And that's the policy I will stick to should the situation ever arise again.

 

But I do believe that it happens because women, or people in general, allow it to. For instance, his ex he cheated WITH, was cheated on by him when they dated before us (which I didn't know about until after), and then after we broke up, of course they started dating again, then after about 8 months, he cheated on HER with his PREVIOUS EX. Why? Well, because he's obviously a fu cked up, emotionally retarded individual, and because she has been a doormat throughout their whole relationship. That's why.

[Kelemort]

There's a difference. In your case, the guy's completely unapologetic about his behavior and feels entitled. My gut reaction is to say that no, I would never tolerate cheating. To be sure, trust would be fractured and it could take YEARS to recover from that kind of devastation.

 

If he had a one night-stand ONCE and there were compelling extenuating factors - and if I felt he was really apologetic and really sincere about never doing it again - I may find a way to forgive it. But how can you forgive someone who isn't truly sorry, who just wants to get back into your bed again while he continues on a path of destruction like that?