mshummy88 Posted March 18, 2011 Posted March 18, 2011 Hey, so I'm pretty new to this site and forums but I just need some opinions on what is going on right now in my life with my ex and me and what needs to be done, so here's the story. Me and my ex dated for a little over 4 years and broke up about a year ago. Through this time i dated a girl for 3 months and couldn't do it anymore because i decided i wasn't ready for a new relationship and i still had strong feelings for my ex. She on the other hand dated 3 guys. One while i was dating this girl and broke up with him because he was just controlling and such. Then she moved on to a second guy who broke up with her because he couldn't handle all of her guy friends (who aren't threatening) back in the beginning of Nov. Me and her started to hang out more and were together pretty much everyday through the end of Nov and through december and kept talking about getting back together, until a friend of her's introduced her to a friend of hers. He kept wanting to hang out with her and such but she always blew him off making up excuses she couldn't when the fact of the matter is she was hanging out with me most of the time. Well finally they started hanging out and talking more and i left for a cruise in the beginning of January. Before i left she was playfully begging me not to go and holding on to me just playing around saying she'll miss me. I come back from vacation and find out that shes dating him. And i talked to her about it when i got back and she says she doesn't know why she did it and such. Well it's been a little over two months that they've been dating and shes always texting me and calling me when she's not with him. I used to see her at school and such but he got so mad at her and told her not too so we dont see each other anymore and hes constantly going through her phone and reading texts that we send each other. Through most of this time she tells me over the phone that shes confused and doesnt know what to do. That she loves, cares and misses me and how she finds these "signs" about me. This past week whenever we talked shes been crying on the phone and bringing up old memories and how she misses those. I told her straight up that I still loved her and cared for her and If and when we ever get another chance that I would love to do it again. I also asked why she keeps talking to me even though it makes him mad and she said that she cant talk to him about stuff and that she needs to talk to me all the time because she misses me...her exact words were "I cant be without you in my life, I cant and couldn't do it". Thing is this guy leaves in May for the service and she told me the other night shes "obligated?" to be with him till the end of March because she made him stay at their workplace a little longer. I just dont get it..and its making me wonder is she really coming back slowly, or is this just false hope.
TaraMaiden Posted March 18, 2011 Posted March 18, 2011 You are the classic back-burner, breadcrumb guy. She's keeping you in the wings for as, if and when, this current lay she's got, wears out, goes pear-shaped or simply fizzles away. Never ever EVER be anybody's second option, when you deserve to be their first priority. EV-ER!! You need to cut her off. She's a cake-eater and is wanting the best of both worlds. Really, read the links in my signature, and follow them 100%, and 100% of the time. no half-measures, no conditions, no flimsy. Just Do It.
Author mshummy88 Posted March 18, 2011 Author Posted March 18, 2011 Yeah, I wasn't too sure on which half of her wanting or just being a second option that i was mostly leaning towards. I'm just having a hard time understanding because at one point I got buisy for 2-3 days and didnt respond to her txt at all and all i got was "Hey! how are you?" "Hello???" "Alright fine dont talk to me then" This week was our spring break and she went on this little 1-2 day trip with this guy and the first day i heard from her and i told her ill let her go because shes with him and she was just like "no, its ok were not speaking to each other at the moment" and later that day she texted again saying hello and that she kind of gets to talk to me because the boyfriend didnt know that she was and that was it..i didnt hear from her at all yesterday up until today around 2:30pm saying "Hey!!!! how are you doing??" and i replied with "finally decided to talk to me huh?" and she just replied with "Haha. well i couldnt reall talk to you yesterday. ill probably give you a call tonight. I have so much to tell you" see..wtf??
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