LadyRashomon Posted March 18, 2011 Posted March 18, 2011 (edited) Ever since my guy friend started a relationship it wasn't been the same. The only information I know about the relationship is they have now been together for one whole year. The point is that last month we went on a sleepyover party. I don't think I need to explain the details. One thing led to another and the rest is history. To make matters worst he told his GF the next day and now he doesn't even want to talk to me on facebook. He completely cut contact with me. Our last conversation ended by him saying I caused all this and that he was never too much into drinks. Ok so can we ever be friends again? Edited March 18, 2011 by LadyRashomon
TaraMaiden Posted March 18, 2011 Posted March 18, 2011 He's an @sshole. To tell you that you caused all this. WTF - !? He has no will-power of his own, and is completely blameless....? What does he think you did, rape him? Tell him that. if he thinks he's completely innocent in this, ask him whether he'd like to file rape charges. See how far that gets.... Drop him. He's with someone else, has gone back to her and has closed you off. Forget it, it's a no hoper. No brainer, rather. Who'd want a guy who's prepared to make such stupid accusations, anyway? Are you serious??
Author LadyRashomon Posted March 18, 2011 Author Posted March 18, 2011 Are you serious??I think you're right and come to think of it, it's not my fault he decided to cheat on his GF. I'm a single 21 year-old party animal and will not change. If he didn't like drinking then why go with me in the first place? He knew what I was like. There is a big reason I wouldn't get involve in a serious relationship. I will end up breaking lots of men's hearts to someone they don't deserve at all. I only lasted 3 months in one relationship and told him straight out that it had to end because I wanted to wonder off. I guess this was too straight forward.
Author LadyRashomon Posted March 18, 2011 Author Posted March 18, 2011 I might be bad as a GF but I'm a good friend to everyone who needs help. He doesn't even considers this.
oldguy Posted March 24, 2011 Posted March 24, 2011 If I'm reading this right I have one question; why are you sleeping with a friend who has a gf? Ok, one more question; You say, "you might be bad as a GF but your a good friend to everyone who needs help", so what sort of help is he asking for, aside from help cheating? Are you kidding me? this whole thing is just messed up, he's a cheater & you don't seem to mind participating, from what I've read, neither of you are guiltless, move on.
Author LadyRashomon Posted March 27, 2011 Author Posted March 27, 2011 If I'm reading this right I have one question; why are you sleeping with a friend who has a gf?We both got carried away with the influence of booze. If you drink too much, then it can really get into you esp when it's a large slumber party. Ok, one more question; You say, "you might be bad as a GF but your a good friend to everyone who needs help", so what sort of help is he asking for, aside from help cheating?He has cut me out of his life ever since that day. He chose his gf over me but I used to help him both with school assignments and would give dating advice too.
TaraMaiden Posted March 28, 2011 Posted March 28, 2011 You had sex with him because you were drunk, but you know - you can't blame the booze.... right? You must have known what you were doing... Booze loosens the inhibitions, but it doesn't make you mentally incompetent... Forget what you used to help him with....The accent is on the "used to".... Those days are over. He's clearly made the decision to put you in the past, and to move on with his life. Actually, in a way, I think I may have over-reacted in my first post, about the guy being an @sshole.... In fact, you have to admire the guy. He came clean wih his GF, and has actually done the one thing most people would advise him to do, if he was here posting something like: "I cheated on my GF with a friend....." he has cut you out of his life, in order to re-build his relationship with her. This is exactly what we would all advise him to do. Go NC with his lover, cut her off completely, have nothing more to do with her, and focus instead on working it out with his GF. Friends with him....? I really think you need to forget all about that, too. Discard the whole idea entirely. I might be bad as a GF....I'm a single 21 year-old party animal and will not change.You want certain things from your connections with guys. you want to be a free agent, have fun, NOT settle down, and lead life your way. And that's fine. But accept that some guys aren't wired your way. Including him. This is over and done with.
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