primer Posted March 18, 2011 Posted March 18, 2011 Do you have any Facebook friends that are constantly changing their relationship status? I have one that is in her late 30s with a few kids and every few months she goes from "In A Relationship" to "Single". I think she was in four different relationships within one year. Maybe I could see a young teenager doing it, but not a grown woman. What are your thoughts on this?
oaks Posted March 18, 2011 Posted March 18, 2011 Do you have any Facebook friends that are constantly changing their relationship status? Yes. One friend went from Single to In a relationship to Single in the space of about 48 hours (with a status update expressing her confusion about how she and he clearly had different views about what was going on). What are your thoughts on this? This feature of Facebook is a bad idea. It's not a dating site, and your "real" friends will know if you're in a relationship (and who with) because you'll tell them when you see them or call them and the idea that you need to broadcast it for anyone else just seems like a really weird (or insecure) thing to need to do. I use Facebook a lot, but I'm not planning on listing my relationship status or any changes to it. Not sure what I'll do if that ends up being a deal-breaker for a girlfriend in the future, but I guess I'll be seeing red flags if she says that.
Mrlonelyone Posted March 18, 2011 Posted March 18, 2011 I think that the relationship status thing on Facebook was a bad idea. Seeing what it has done to relationships ...... I mean... people used to be able to get together and break up with a degree of privacy. Now everyone needs to know about it. Furthermore that fact that suddenly one's relationship status and with whom can be broadcast to hundreds, thousands, or hundreds of thousands....has probably changed peoples relationship decisions. Where now ones FB standing can just about trump or equal their real life practical status in the community. This is why your friend has been in an out of "a relationship". Odds are she is somewhat desperate to not be the woman with three children and no relationship. Women with children are of all single people, judged most harshly for not having at least a serious boyfriend. She could feel the pressure and really wants to have that "in a relationship" next to her name on FB...and in real life. A heterosexual womans "success" in life is too often measured by what man is by her side. All of those psychosocial dynamics are at play.
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