MichaelMagu Posted March 18, 2011 Posted March 18, 2011 Hi everyone, I'm looking for some advice on a particularly confusing situation I've found myself in. I'm 31 and I've been single for about a year. In that time, I've had a few girlfriends, but I've basically been single. I generally don't hit on girls but when I do, I'm not afraid of rejection and I find it pretty simple to ask girls out. I don't get nervous, I don't really think about it. If there were 100 girls in the room, I'd have no problem talking to all 100. Just for knowledge, I'd say I've hit on maybe 3 girls this past year single. The Problem.. I was buying some darts and I look to back of the store (it has a post office in the back) and there is a young very pretty girl working the counter. I get a quick glimpse and off out of the store I go. Just another good looking girl (PS, I think almost all woman are beautiful) and really not much more of a thought than that. I return a couple weeks later and I just so happen to need a stamp. I enter the store, head to the post office at the back and she's standing with her back towards me looking at something on the wall. Again, like before, I'm not thinking about anything other than buying my stamps. After all, its just another girl, however nice or pretty. She turns around and says hi. I buy my stamps, make her giggle with some small-talk-with-customer chit-chat and off I go. Since I'm a Jedi with awesome mind abilities, I know she's 22 years old. My problem has nothing to do with her age. My problem is that I can't hit on her. I can hit on any girl in the world at any time. Even if I liked a girl in the past, I could hit on them. Even if I had a boyhood-type crush on a girl and get all giddy and weirded out around her, even then I can still hit on her. So why can't I even go back to the store? As I said, I'm in my thirties and I've been in some very loving and deeply emotionally connected relationships. I know what love is. However, I've never felt like this ever in my life. Is this love at first sight? Does that even exist?
yessy21 Posted March 18, 2011 Posted March 18, 2011 not love at first sight. but close to the defenition. i think its cute. she has intimidated u. that is absolutley adorable. Go back to the store. write down ur phone number and leave it there for her.
Author MichaelMagu Posted March 18, 2011 Author Posted March 18, 2011 Intimidation. That had never occurred to me. I love you idea about leaving my number -- however -- I just thought about it and I don't think I can do that either. I'm glad you think it's cute and adorable. I'm not going to lie, I'm having a rather entertaining time debating with myself about it all. Thanks for the advice.
Mensha Posted March 18, 2011 Posted March 18, 2011 its the hardest tactic in the play book. If you guys have been talking here and there and she tends to smile when she talks to you, just go all the way and ask her for her number. I mean its so hard to do, but if you do that, you tend to catch them off guard. They see confidence in that and might just do it. If she says no, she will be nice to you and take it as a boost in her confidence. Plus its good practice. You have to do it once and after that, it gets easier.
Von Posted March 18, 2011 Posted March 18, 2011 I know exactly how you feel. This has happened to me with the girl I recently met/was dating/now not. The chemistry was crazy. And I got that "sprung" feeling right away. First time ever for me. Usually takes me a couple weeks or months to get those emotions. You could call it love at first site. But you dont really love them yet, and its not infactuation yet. I call it EXTREME ATTRACTION. Anyways, I know exactly what you need to do. Go back in there for stamps, smile and make small talk like before, maybe tease her a little (do it lightly), and then turn around to walk away, but before taking more than a step, turn back around and say "Hey, do you have email?". When she gives it to you get her number too. If she asks why, just say "so I can see what your like, here write it down". If you say it with confidence that should work buddy.
yessy21 Posted March 18, 2011 Posted March 18, 2011 I know exactly how you feel. This has happened to me with the girl I recently met/was dating/now not. The chemistry was crazy. And I got that "sprung" feeling right away. First time ever for me. Usually takes me a couple weeks or months to get those emotions. You could call it love at first site. But you dont really love them yet, and its not infactuation yet. I call it EXTREME ATTRACTION. Anyways, I know exactly what you need to do. Go back in there for stamps, smile and make small talk like before, maybe tease her a little (do it lightly), and then turn around to walk away, but before taking more than a step, turn back around and say "Hey, do you have email?". When she gives it to you get her number too. If she asks why, just say "so I can see what your like, here write it down". If you say it with confidence that should work buddy. I like that approach.
Author MichaelMagu Posted March 18, 2011 Author Posted March 18, 2011 I know exactly how you feel. This has happened to me with the girl I recently met/was dating/now not. The chemistry was crazy. And I got that "sprung" feeling right away. First time ever for me. Usually takes me a couple weeks or months to get those emotions. You could call it love at first site. But you dont really love them yet, and its not infactuation yet. I call it EXTREME ATTRACTION. Extreme Attraction. I like that. I think that is exactly what this is. I'll be honest though, it's odd as I've never felt this before. Thanks for your insight. Anyways, I know exactly what you need to do. Go back in there for stamps, smile and make small talk like before, maybe tease her a little (do it lightly), and then turn around to walk away, but before taking more than a step, turn back around and say "Hey, do you have email?". When she gives it to you get her number too. If she asks why, just say "so I can see what your like, here write it down". If you say it with confidence that should work buddy. Wow, great reply. Just reading that made me want go do this. I think I just might. Thank you.
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