nishant Posted March 18, 2011 Posted March 18, 2011 Ok...so i finally confessed my feeling to the girl that i like over SMS... She is a co worker and was leaving for her hometown so i SMSed here... things although did not go as planned.. so i ampasting our sms conversation below... I need help in deciding next course of action... I am a positive person so i would appreciate positive feedback...No negative feedback like "forget her" please... 1st message: " There is something i want to tell you and something i want you to think about. I like you and would like to be more than friends with you. Will await your response to my proposal. M already missing your presence in office" Her reply: " That is sweet of you. But i think its better we remain friends" My reply" "I am firm believer that a girl and guy cannot be friends for long. I want you to think over my proposal again and we will discuss this over coffee when you come back" Her reply " Lets not make things awkward by discussing things further please" I haven't replied since then. She is aboard a flight now and will land in 3-4 hours. She is out for a week. I am looking forward to having a face to face conversation with her when she comes back but till then i want her to keep thinking about it. So would appreciate if someone told me in a positive manner what my reply should be. I am in no mood to give up as girls normally tend to say "No" in the first instance when proposed. But at the same time i don't want to come out as some psycho who cannot take a rejection and will continue trying no matter what. As you understand, she is my colleague so i have to keep my career in mind as well and not come out as egotistical bastard who cannot take a rejection. Also, I am sorry if i came across as pushy in my second message to her... I did not want to do that... I just wanted her to have second thoughts... as from my experience girls always say "no.. lets be friends only" first time... but if someone tries a little harder they sometime agree...
oaks Posted March 18, 2011 Posted March 18, 2011 No negative feedback like "forget her" please... You want advice but only if it's the answer you want to hear? Anyway, she's said 'no' twice now so I wouldn't ask a third time, but her first response suggested that she wants to stay friends. If you want to be (just) friends with her then apologise when you see her for any embarrassment you may have caused her.
lizwashere Posted March 18, 2011 Posted March 18, 2011 (edited) She is being completly honest and direct with you - she is not interested in a romantic relationship and you need to respect her decision. And for the record, I've never once said NO to man and not meant it or changed my mind about it later. Edited March 18, 2011 by lizwashere
ReturnToSender Posted March 18, 2011 Posted March 18, 2011 You say you dont want to seem egotistical like you cant take rejection, but shes said no twice and you wont accept it. It seems shes being really kind and honest...unfortunately this is the point where when someone keeps refusing to accept its not going to happen, one feels they have no other choice but to be cruel to get the point through. Please dont let it come to that...have respect for her decision not to pursue things.
Author nishant Posted March 19, 2011 Author Posted March 19, 2011 Yes... I am from India... To all those replied... Many Thanks... Your reply is very much appreciated...
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