JrRos Posted March 18, 2011 Posted March 18, 2011 Well, I come from the break-up section. My ex-gf and I broke up in early January. We were having lots of stupid, and childish argument (emphasis added on A LOT) and she started to develop feelings for another guy. So after another mindless fight the blew out of proportion, she dumped me. Soon after, she started dating this other person. I walked away from it, went to NC. This past week we met up and talk for the first time since then. Long story short, she said "things happened to fast." She was very hurt and fed up of with the way I was treating her - which was very bad. All in all, she said she hasn't stop thinking about me, that she misses me deeply, and that she wants to try again. I also feel the same way about her. Now, we are considering starting again SLOW. I don't want to rush anything and jump two feet in. My question now is, what's advice would you offer to give this a real second chance to work out? I personally, have dealt and resolve some insecurity, and personal issues that I was letting affect my behavior towards the relationship. I see the things I was doing wrong, but most importantly why I was doing them is such fashion and have amended accordingly. So far, the few things that I have come up is: 1. To enforce trust and communication to the max. As misunderstandings can harm relationships badly very quickly. No doubt or lies. 2. To leave all from the past in the past. Given that we are starting on a "clean slate" there is no need to go back to the past and open old wounds. Sort of "what happens in Vegas stays in Vegas" What would you add?
betterdeal Posted March 18, 2011 Posted March 18, 2011 3. Make your words consistent with your actions. 4. Think positively. Is it a problem, or is it a time for growth as people and as a couple? 5. Know your boundaries, what you will accept, what you will compromise on, what you won't compromise on, make this clear
No_hope Posted March 18, 2011 Posted March 18, 2011 Rationalize when in an argument never go to bed mad show each other how much you care for each other - everyday. Not clingy, but acknowledge.
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