EmperorR Posted March 19, 2011 Posted March 19, 2011 It's simple to much baggage, been there done that.
PratyekaYana Posted March 19, 2011 Posted March 19, 2011 I have absolutely no problem dating single mothers. As a matter of fact, in complete contrast to the social stigma attached to their status, I have generally found them to be quite endowed with many of the elements of character and personality that I value in a significant other. Progressing beyond a casual dating relationship would likely be problematic for me, though, because I feel that such a decision would violate at least one of my life's goals over which I'm unwilling to compromise. I don't want children. If I should fall for this hypothetical single mother, if love should blossom between us and a committed relationship is established, is there any agreeable situation that she and I could maintain where I would be miraculously exempt from taking on some responsibility for her kids? I cannot easily conceive of one.
EasyHeart Posted March 19, 2011 Posted March 19, 2011 And why should relationship-minded men have anything to do with people who are presently sleeping in the beds they already made?? (it is perfectly OK to avoid drug addicts, alcoholics and felons employing your same standard, and they too are the victims of nothing more than their own choices) In case you haven't realized it, there is no law against discriminating against mothers in social/dating scenarios. If you are dissatisfied with the current world around you then why don't you travel down the proper avenues on which you could go about changing the laws. Until then, live with the choices you made and their consequences. Hey, "it's a free country" (as they say in the U.S.A. )Wow. Which century are you living in?
brainygirl Posted March 19, 2011 Posted March 19, 2011 And why should relationship-minded men have anything to do with people who are presently sleeping in the beds they already made?? (it is perfectly OK to avoid drug addicts, alcoholics and felons employing your same standard, and they too are the victims of nothing more than their own choices) In case you haven't realized it, there is no law against discriminating against mothers in social/dating scenarios. If you are dissatisfied with the current world around you then why don't you travel down the proper avenues on which you could go about changing the laws. Until then, live with the choices you made and their consequences. Hey, "it's a free country" (as they say in the U.S.A. ) My choices being 1) I had sex and 2) I didn't kill or abandon my children? have you never had sex? Have you never been in love with someone who turned out to be less than honest, or what if the single mother were a widow? Did she choose to have her husband die? I'm not going to argue that all single moms are saints, they run the gamut, just like any other group. Some single mothers are lazy, rude, irresponsible, and enjoy living off welfare and other state subsidies. But other single mothers are kind, active, independent, self sufficient, with good careers and are even active in the community. Why the hatred towards them? Or are you one of those uber conservatives who read Anne Coulter and believe her crap? Guess what, she's full of it.
SincereOnlineGuy Posted March 20, 2011 Posted March 20, 2011 Wow. Which century are you living in? My choices being 1) I had sex and 2) I didn't kill or abandon my children? have you never had sex? Have you never been in love with someone who turned out to be less than honest, or what if the single mother were a widow? Did she choose to have her husband die? I'm not going to argue that all single moms are saints, they run the gamut, just like any other group. Some single mothers are lazy, rude, irresponsible, and enjoy living off welfare and other state subsidies. But other single mothers are kind, active, independent, self sufficient, with good careers and are even active in the community. Why the hatred towards them? Or are you one of those uber conservatives who read Anne Coulter and believe her crap? Guess what, she's full of it. This still isn't about "me". This is about some reference to "men" being "afraid of children". I don't have any children, so I never have these hurdles or related concerns. I can assure you, though, that to suggest that "men" are "afraid of children" in large numbers, is absurd. You collectively mapped out your priorities already, and have now revealed them to interested parties, so at least take the appropriate position which is to let others decide whether you might be suitable company for them. If your next prospect told of priorities like playing poker 4 nights a week, or shooting hoops all day Saturday and all day Sunday, you'd certainly be free to pick and choose based on his priorities. Now simply afford him the same privilege.
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