mutenroshi Posted March 18, 2011 Posted March 18, 2011 I was with a muslim girl for 9 months. I am a muslim too. We were both 18 years old. We loved each other and we never fought. She was my first love and I was her first serious relationship. For the first 6 months everything was great and I was deeply in love with her. I had hopes of marrying her one day. Id like to point out that we never did anything physical because of our religion. After the first 6 months she went on vacation with her family in her native country for 2 months. We exchanged one or two emails but I started to feel that something was changing in her, so I stopped writing her to give her some time and space and to let her enjoy her vacation. When she came back she started flaking on me and ignoring my attempts to see or talk to her. A month later I called her out on her attitude and she told me we had to talk. I already knew what was coming. We left each other but I don't really know why. I think she didn't love me anymore but she tried to make up some reasons to not hurt me. I was crushed and depressed. Also my father died 3 months later. Its been 6 months since we left each other and I still think of her everyday. I tried talking to her a few times to understand why she didn't want to be with me anymore, but I haven't got any real answers. I still love her, I would like to remove her from my heart but I don't know how to do it. The last email I sent her was two months ago and I am struggling to not write her again. How can I forget her?
yessy21 Posted March 18, 2011 Posted March 18, 2011 ur not. not for a very long long time. just keep urself busy.
stopthemadness Posted March 19, 2011 Posted March 19, 2011 Iam begining to understand that love is love no matter how long the couple are together. With that said, so sorry for your heart ache. The only thing that will heal your pain is time. As time goes by you will think of her less and less. I know its hard to imagine that now, but it will happen. Try to stay busy, join a gym. Get back in contact with family and friends. People move on for many different reasons and we wont always understand why. Am learning that lesson now. So try not to spend to much time wondering about what you could have or would have done. Hang in there... keep posting it helps..we are here for you...Good luck
Author mutenroshi Posted March 21, 2011 Author Posted March 21, 2011 thank you yessy21 and stopthemadness for your answers I already go to the gym 3 times a week and I'm a full time student, but I still think of her all the time. Maybe it's because she was the first girl I ever loved. What hurts alot is the feeling I have that she has completely deleted me from her live. It's like I don't exist anymore. When she was on vacation I was looking forward to the day she would come back and I would see her again but ever since she came back she was never the same again.
turokturok5 Posted March 21, 2011 Posted March 21, 2011 thank you yessy21 and stopthemadness for your answers I already go to the gym 3 times a week and I'm a full time student, but I still think of her all the time. Maybe it's because she was the first girl I ever loved. What hurts alot is the feeling I have that she has completely deleted me from her live. It's like I don't exist anymore. When she was on vacation I was looking forward to the day she would come back and I would see her again but ever since she came back she was never the same again. Girls are like that from what i've gathered from these forums. Once they dump you for no reason, no matter how strong your connection with them was they act as if you don't exist anymore, they suddenly turn cold. Nobody knows what goes through their mind at this time but them...
jeff2321 Posted March 21, 2011 Posted March 21, 2011 Once a girl is done with you... they are done. It's just the way it is. I have accepted this as a fact of life and it is why I put in NC so that I can heal. It still isn't easy though...
yessy21 Posted March 21, 2011 Posted March 21, 2011 When i was a kid and people would leave my life... my dad would say... "they just dont belong in your world." those words have stuck to me like white on rice.
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