creighton0123 Posted March 18, 2011 Posted March 18, 2011 Hey everyone, I'm a sad panda for now. Boyfriend currently left the Tokyo area after being advised by the American embassy that he should leave. He's on his way over to Vietnam to stay with a family member. Things are up in the air. I was supposed to go there in a month and a half for our first visit since New Years, but a number of things have gotten in the way: 1. Current situation there and the US travel warning, which doesn't look like it's going to go away at any point in time 2. Mother is going into the hospital for another surgery, having just recovered from major heart surgery (she'll be fine) 3. Father stepped forward and forbade me from going to Tokyo. Yes... I'm 27 and can make my own choice, but my father has never once told me what I could or could not do in my life. I'm honor bound to listen to him since he has been the most amazing father ever. That makes me sad. I'd like to see him so very badly and want him to give up this mission to work abroad for a year. Our routine has been interrupted. My optimism has currently been broken as has our routine communication for the foreseeable future. This has been one of the longest weeks in my life. I don't want him to come home, though, because that means things in northern Japan will have gotten worse. I know that I'll blink my eyes and it'll be November and he'll be home. I hope that, even should things get better there, he decides to return home anyhow. For now, I'm desperately missing him, but we're still as strong and persistent as ever.
folieadeux Posted March 18, 2011 Posted March 18, 2011 I'm so sorry to hear this Creighton; although I kind of suspected that your plans of flying directly there, at the very least, would be changed. One or more of the airports is completely leveled and I don't think everything will be sorted out by next month to accomodate most commercial flights. With that being said, is there any way you can visit him in Vietnam? I'm not sure how long he'll be there, but if he can't come home until November for a visit, at least that will give you SOME time together. Why is your dad adamant about you not visiting Japan? Is it because of recent events or due to some other circumstances? If it's just because he's concerned over your physical safety there, then perhaps visiting Vietnam (or meeting in another location) would be the best option to make everyone happy. Stay strong and I wish your mom a speedy recovery.
Author creighton0123 Posted March 18, 2011 Author Posted March 18, 2011 Only Sendai airport is down, last I checked, and they cleared the runway to get commercial planes in for food/water/medical supplies. Unfortunately, Vietnam isn't an option right now. I carefully budgeted to get to Tokyo and put down quite a bit of money for a new apartment come May. Price to Tokyo was 1k. Price to Ho Chi Minh is 1.5 to 1.8k minimum. Once things settle down in the next few days, we may discuss the next time he can visit. When I refund the April ticket, I am happy to take half of that and put it aside for a ticket in August for him to come here for two weeks. In November is the end of his time abroad. He'll be back for good by the end of November. Having that end date is awesome. My father is being rational is all. He's worried about my physical safety, long term health, and whether or not it is even appropriate to visit now with the current state of things. He was also stuck working in the Ukraine when Chernobyl went down. Before the quake, he had no problem with me going whatsoever. Right now, he would have no problem with me going in... say... a year. As I mentioned, my father doesn't control me in any way, shape, or form. I'm currently listening to him because he's right.
folieadeux Posted March 18, 2011 Posted March 18, 2011 Having that end date in mind is really good, but I know seeing each other if at all possible beforehand would be amazing too. Saving up for him to come here sounds like the best route at this point for everyone involved. I think your dad is right to be concerned about travelling there so soon after this disaster. Good to see he has your best interest in mind.
lonely79 Posted March 19, 2011 Posted March 19, 2011 aww Creighton, Im sorry to hear this. how incredibly disappointing and hard it must be to not be able to talk to your boyfriend. I know it can be so difficult when you're off your regular communication routine - heck ive only been at this 4 months and have already learned that. I hope you guys can figure out a good time to see each other
HeavenOrHell Posted March 19, 2011 Posted March 19, 2011 So sorry to hear this Creighton, you must be pretty gutted to put it mildly, it makes me appreciate my situation so much more. So glad you have and end in sight though And the main thing is your other half is safe. And I agree with your father, he's just looking out for you
heartshaped Posted March 19, 2011 Posted March 19, 2011 I'm sorry you won't be able to see your SO as planned. I know how painful it is to go months without seeing someone, think you are going to see them soon, and then, it doesn't work out. Thankfully, time will pass fast and before you know it he will be home. I do hope the two of you get your routine communication back on track as well.
Author creighton0123 Posted March 19, 2011 Author Posted March 19, 2011 Yeah. It's the break in routine more than the disappointment in the canceled trip. Right now, he's staying with family and is kind of shy, so not on Skype for anything more than a few minutes. Waiting for him to come back online now, but I missed him because I had slept in. I'm not gutted, angry, confused, or sad (well... a little sad). I just prefer routine and enjoy things working out. I'll be a little sad and off until things are more clear again.
aerogurl87 Posted March 19, 2011 Posted March 19, 2011 Sorry to hear that your plans were derailed Creighton, but at least you have an end date in mind. That makes things all the better, and hopefully your boyfriend can come see you in August as I know you'd both really appreciate that.
Author creighton0123 Posted March 19, 2011 Author Posted March 19, 2011 Sorry to hear that your plans were derailed Creighton, but at least you have an end date in mind. That makes things all the better, and hopefully your boyfriend can come see you in August as I know you'd both really appreciate that. Exactly. It looks like the first week in May is a no-go, but he has two weeks off in August and I'm sure I can go out of my way to convince him to come here. Yeah, it sucks, but knowing that November will bring with it the end of his contract and his return here helps wonderfully. As of tomorrow, 250 days left until his return. I've erased the counter for the next time I see him. Considering the total days away was 385 and we're not at 250, that puts us 35% through the long distance relationship. I am sad, yes, but this was only ever a very small bump in the road.
LittleTiger Posted March 19, 2011 Posted March 19, 2011 Wow, that's tough Creighton, I'm really sorry for you and your bf. I know what you mean about the routine thing. We've got our next two visits roughly sorted (we know which month) and I'd be pretty upset if something put a stop to one of them - especially something as major as this. I think you're right to listen to your wise Dad. Sometimes our parents are right, however old we are, and it pays to take their advice. I think this is one of those times. Hope you can get the August visit sorted soon......and 250 days - I bet it will fly by.
Author creighton0123 Posted March 19, 2011 Author Posted March 19, 2011 Hope you can get the August visit sorted soon......and 250 days - I bet it will fly by. August should work out. In the end, though, 250 days isn't all that long. I mean... we're almost a quarter of the way through 2011 already.
befreckled Posted March 21, 2011 Posted March 21, 2011 I know you mentioned that Vietnam is too far away but, there are alot of budget airlines within South East Asia. E.g. It costs typically about $150 USD to fly to Vietnam from Singapore. Also the expenses are more expensive in Tokyo than in Vietnam so that might be a cost savings there too. Significant. I know that flights to Singapore from major US hubs like LAX./SFO/JFK is cheaper than flying direct to Vietnam Just a thought cos I know how difficult it is.
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